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bit of an update....
My brother told our mom that he talked to me and how upset I was and he was at her putting him in the middle and her being so unfair. She stayed mad, said he should be loyal to her since she's his mother, I'm just his sister. Nice, huh?
Anyway, she still refused to get my other children gifts. Then she budges a little and says she'll get her "real" grandchildren gifts. (but of course, spending 3x as much on the fave one). My bro persists and says, you cant do that to the kids, its wrong. Buy all or nothing. And you have to call 'shenjall' and ask first. So, after badmouthing 3 of my kids (why oh why did he tell me ) one is a brat; one is f*in stupid; one is lazy and should be working. She agrees to give each a card and $20. My bro feels happy - he thinks he did the right thing. Which he did, he fought for my kids (he also yelled at her for calling them names and told her she's wrong - they're the best kids ever) to be treated "fairly". But its fake.
I'm inclined to tell her to f**k off. I dont want her gifts or anything. I hate how easily she could insult innocent children. I'm glad I know how she really feels, but it hurts so much. I'm crying too much right now, I have to go.
|Personally I would tell her what she can do with her gifts and cards and tell her to never, ever contact me again.|
|Since you've made the choice to cut her out (which I completely agree with BTW) maybe you could call your siblings and just let them know ahead of time. Give them the reasons and whatnot and hope your relationship will survive.|