I used to. For me, many different reasons.
Mostly there is just not enough room. I have 5 S'kids.
The oldest are 26. I didn't meet them until they were 13 or 14. They never came over that much. We all get along fine, but since they were older, I was never a part of raising them.
The next two I don't care to list because they have been absolutly horrible to me in the 10+ years they lived here. You name it, they've done it. Major stealing from both of them. The 17 yr old still steals whatever she pleases. The other one kicked me in the stomach while I was pregnant. Major lying. Sneaking around. Blatently disobeying. Not respectful of anybody. they could never be left in this house without Dh or I around because of their stealing.
They would steal the house keys and skip school and come back here to steal.
One of them literaly kicked in the back door one time just to get in while they knew nobody was here. I had to replace the entire frame. They got CP involved because of their lies. One of them has been in jail and house arrest when she was 16. I've been physically attack by both of them numerous times with out provocation. (asking them to pick up after themselves or turning off a light when they leave the room does not, in my book, warrent a physical attack).
We tried everything in the book to deal with those two. Many years of counseling. Gd, tough love. Positive attention and reenforcement. I've done more with them then their biomom ever did. I would go on field trips, especially since they would ask me to. I was always there for them when their mother would diss them. They've always had a roof over their head, food on the table and good clothes. We were not overly strict, but it was made clear early on what our expectations were and it was nothing unreasonable. We never beat the crap out of them like their biomom would.
They just never liked me because I saw right through their BS and wouldn't fall for their lies and manipulations. I wouldn't give in to their demands.
The older one ( who is 19 now) has finally matured a little bit. I think having a baby at 18 helped that. But the one (who turns 18 tomorrow) is getting worse. It is absolutly miserable here with her around. Do you know what she did last week? SHE STOLE HER LITTLE BROTHERS' ALLOWENCE $$! AGAIN! Even when she is caught redhanded, she boldfaced lies to your face. She has never once apologized for anything she has done to others in this house. This is how low she will stoop to get what she wants. She is too lazy to get a job. She had one for a few months last year, but she said she quit. I think she actually got fired, probably for stealing. She skips school all the time.
How much longer do I need to get shit on by her? Cause that's all they've both ever done, is shit all over me. No matter how nice I was, no matter how I tried to keep things postive around here. No matter how much I supported them (both emotionally and monetarely) when their biomom wouldn't , they've just turned right around and threw it back in my face. I've taken them back into this house many times when they would run back to their biomom just to have her beat the crap out of them, get evicted or have biomom's current sugar daddy kick them all out. They just threw it all back into my face and continued to shit all over me. I kept taking them back anyways because I am a nice person and felt they should be givin another chance. How many chances do I need to give them? These chances where coming at the expense of my other children, myself, my family and my marriage. How much do I have to take? Well, I'm not anymore. I've had enough. Sd knows right from wrong. She justdoesn't care who she shits all over. She turn's 18 tomorrow. She's an adult now. It's too bad she's turn 18 before she's done with high school. I have to let her stay here until June. I'd rather have her out now. I'm sick of having my shit turn up missing only to find it in her posession. You know what, I hate her. There I said it. I want her out of here. There, I said it. I am a horrible person for not wanting to put up with her shit anymore.
That is why those two aren't in my siggy's, too many bad memories. Too much misery.
P.s. thank you for the vent. I've been holding this in for years. Literally.
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