I have some concerns about my DSS who is 9. His mother has remarried a man with a 6yo daughter. He has custody about 75% of the time, frequently more often as his ex is not very stable. We share custody of DSS 50/50.
The daughter is fascinated by DSS, up to and including coming into his bedroom at night and trying to sleep with DSS. DSS does NOT want her in his personal space while he's trying to sleep. While he's not old enough or experienced enough to express it, I think he feels there is something "off" about her insistence about sleeping with him. I also feel that the behavior of the little girl is a little extreme in the other situations where I've seen her.
Because she kicks up such a fuss when he tries to get her to leave, his mother and stepfather have been insisting that DSS let the girl stay in bed with him to avoid disrupting the entire family's sleep. However, this doesn't seem fair to DSS, and further, since the girl's mother is so unstable, I have concerns that there will be some kind of misunderstanding, and she will accuse DSS of some sort of sexual misbehavior with the daughter. While that may seem to be an unreasonable fear I think the mother is CRA-ZEE and so her actions/behavior are unpredictable.
Any suggestions for ways we can help DSS to deal with the daughter? Any arguments we can use to convince the ex that the situation is unacceptable? Am I being unreasonable?