Join Date: Dec 2003
Location: Healing my heart
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First off, the boys are from my 1st marriage. The X gets them every other weekend during the school year, and then for the whole summer where we get them every other weekend. I could STRANGLE that damn judge who decided on this stupid arrangement. The X lives 3 hours away, and we meet him half-way every other Friday night to drop the boys off, and Sunday afternoon to pick them up.
Anyway, he calls last night to see what time to pick them up tonight. And then he wants to know how it's going to work for Chirstmas. This is where I get mad. I'm due to have another baby any day now (my EDD is the 16th, but I always go past). So their Christmas vacation is right when I'm probably going to have the baby. And he needs to know NOW when he can have them so HIS relatives can arrange THEIR schedules for when the boys are there. I told him I DON'T KNOW, as I'll be having a baby around that time. I'd REALLY, REALLY want the boys here for the birth. The X thinks every time the boys have a day off from school, they need to go down there. It's ridiculous all the driving we do, and I'm SICK & TIRED of fitting into HIS freakin' schedule!!!! My DH says that he should only get them for the time it says he can have them, and no extra days, which would be the weekend of the 23rd & 24th. I agree, but I KNOW the X would just not show up with them at the exchange time on the 24th, which he has done before.
So now I don't know what to do. There's a family party for my family on the 30th that I don't want the boys to miss, which is our weekend to have them. But the X wants them from the 27th for the rest of their vacation, which is the 1st of January. Then they would miss my family's party. I HATE HATE HATE that the boys have to go down there at all, as the X is the "let's party & have no rules-I'll be your best friend" type parent. I wish we could afford to get the visitation schedule changed to him seeing them once a month, then for 2 weeks in the summer. It's crazy the money we spend on gas, the time it takes for driving, and the way it disrupts everyone's schedules.
Wow, that got long! I feel better now that I got it out!!