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#1 of 5 Old 03-04-2008, 04:34 PM - Thread Starter
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Do you think it's easier to develop a relationship with a stepson than a stepdaughter? Girls seem more causious?
But then again, I have a lot of theories...

So what do you think?

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In my case, the DSD was easier because she was the baby. But I've read that the stepmom-stepdaughter relation is the hardest, and intuitively it feels like that would be the case if everything else was equal.

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Well, I only have a stepson, but I do wonder that. We do have a bit of a barrier to cross since we are steps, but on top of that he is now a 12 year old boy. Some days he only wants to talk about World of Warcraft, skate tricks and Foo Fighters. Sometimes I want to connect, but I feel like he is speaking a foreign language!

On the other hand, as a boy, he has always been so connected to his dad and has always lived with him. I wonder if he was a girl if he would be closer to his mom and not live with us as much?
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My DSS is much closer to his mom than to his dad. He lives with her now but even when his dad was still married to his mom, he was mommy's boy. He is 13 now and I don't really try to get all that close because I think he feels threatened when I do. I know his mom feels threatened. I think a step daughter would have been easier, at least I could take her shopping and spoil her!
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I think it's more of a challenge for same sex to develop relationships in this situation.

My bf has 2 boys and a girl - I have developed nice relationships with all three. It's easier for me with the boys. It's trickier with the girl - I don't know if it's the relationship with her and her dad - that she feels like I'm moving in on her territory. I think it depends on how much fusion is going on, too.

On the flip side - it's been easier for my bf to have a relationship with my dd than my ds. He has to work harder with my ds. I think temperment plays a part too.
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