I need some help detaching and not getting so emotional when it comes to my ex. My DD is 7 1/2 and I have been apart from my ex since before I found out I was pregnant. I do not have ANY romantic/unresolved feelings for him, in fact I am completely repulsed by him - physically and mentally. I posted a few days ago about the hard time I am having with regards to him and his wife's constant bullying of my daughter (he has been with his wife for 7+ yrs, I have been with my husband for 7+ yrs - we each met our current spouses when I was 7mos pregnant with my DD).
I know I should not let him have this power over me. After the most recent ordeal on Sunday, I am now burnt out, have a constant headache and haven't slept properly in 3 days. I have full custody of my daughter, he has visitation and I have no intentions of pulling his visitation. And I know that I can call the shots if need be, but he still has the ability to make my life miserable.
Are there any links out there where I can learn some strategies to detach and shut these emotions off? I dread seeing him every week because just when I think things have smoothed over, he freaks out about something else. They've now started with "don't tell your mom" and "we wish you lived with us full-time" - and my daughter has been telling me what they are saying in confidence and I don't want to breach her trust, so I've just been documenting everything and stewing inside.
I know I should not let him have this power over me. After the most recent ordeal on Sunday, I am now burnt out, have a constant headache and haven't slept properly in 3 days. I have full custody of my daughter, he has visitation and I have no intentions of pulling his visitation. And I know that I can call the shots if need be, but he still has the ability to make my life miserable.
Are there any links out there where I can learn some strategies to detach and shut these emotions off? I dread seeing him every week because just when I think things have smoothed over, he freaks out about something else. They've now started with "don't tell your mom" and "we wish you lived with us full-time" - and my daughter has been telling me what they are saying in confidence and I don't want to breach her trust, so I've just been documenting everything and stewing inside.