Originally Posted by nikag
Or secret option number 3.
He can sue for full custody so that he knows that A) he can be sure his child/children will be in a residence he deems safe, healthy and secure and B) so he'll know that the money he makes will be going exclusively toward that end - without any filters or rearrangements. For the sake of the kid, of course.
Yeah, I thought about that. I didn't list it because in many states it's not a real option. In some states material circumstances can play in, but even so, the court's going to be reluctant to disrupt an established custodial situation on the basis of who's got a nicer house this year. Some states' courts have ruled explicitly that material circumstances are not to be considered in awarding custody, so long as both parents can actually provide some sort of home for the children. Even if the mom moves to a truly crummy apartment and Daddy's got a palace, unless she's moved the child there so that she can better support her meth habit or out of some other form of recklessness, Daddy's not going to move the judge.