Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Surrounded by Knotty Pine/ MA
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I have a good relationship with dd's dad, so I want to be clear that this is a genuine question and not a rant or anything.
Dh and I are moving from CA to MA in two weeks, and all three kids are coming with us (his, mine, ours-- for clarity). We've been planning this move for a year, and dd's dad agreed to it. He originally said that he would move to the East Coast, too, so that he could still be close to dd. He changes his mind a lot, though, and now he says he wants to wait a year to move out to make sure that we're really going to stay there. I know that's reasonable, but I'm slightly annoyed because he got dd's hopes up about it. Another post.
Anyway, yesterday he said that he wants to visit her once a month, and he asked if he could stop paying child support or lower the amount so that he could afford the plane tix to fly.
He does spend a lot of time with dd now. He has her two eves a week and every other weekend. I would love it if he could visit her once a month, but I suspect it may not happen as often as that. We can afford a lower payment, but it will mean being more frugal. Also, dd is going to need braces soon, and I'm not sure how we'll pay for that without cs.
I guess I feel like we made the choice to leave, so I should do whatever I can to encourage his visiting -- we even told him he could stay with us-- but I don't want to be duped, either. He has good intentions (usually) but poor follow through.
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