Yesterday was the start of our new custody schedule. (We were only getting her for 2 hours Tues. & Thurs. + EOW... now we have her overnight on Thurs. + EOW) The two hours were always rushed and it was basically hurry up to eat dinner, then clean up, then maybe a half hour or so before her Mom got there... and DSD could never get comfortable as she knew her Mom would be picking her up and would linger watching the window, anticipating her arrival...
Last night was our first overnight on a school night and it went sooo much better! No one felt rushed. We got to take our time with eating dinner and still had plenty of time to play and bond afterwards! DSD didn't have the trepidadtion of when her Mom was coming to pick her up because she knew she was staying, so she was able to relax and enjoy her time with us better too. It really was a huge difference. She was happy the whole night, excited she got to stay with us.
DH got to spend one-on-one time with her while I made dinner and cleaned up, then we all went to play in the yard after I was done as a family! Once DH went to work, then DSD and I ate ice cream together, and I gave her a bath, and we read some bed time stories. It was a really good night.
And this morning she was happy too, and when I dropped her off at school she was waving to the other kids and excited that she got to bring something from Daddy's house for the first time for show & tell.
We are really happy her Mom went for the change. I think this is going to be really good for everyone.
It does kind of suck for us though... we will have to go longer stretches without seeing her. Weeks we don't have her on the weekend it will be a full week before we see her again (like this week... we won't see her til next Thursday night now)... but then we will have her for 4 days in a row for our weekend.
In the end our biggest deciding factor was doing what was best for DSD, and we can already see it will make a significant impact.
We were all able to relax a lot more last night and it was nice having breakfast as a family this morning before we all had to go our separate ways for the day.
I'm just really happy today because of it.