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#31 of 37 Old 10-27-2008, 12:03 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I'd go crazy with a chime, since dss get up at least a couple of times a night to pee. But I guess in this case it's the lesser of two evils. It sounds like a good solution for you!
it worked great too. as long as i wait for them to fall asleep before i put it up. they thought it was great fun to play with the doorknob the first night and make it go off a thousand times. lol. i also told them to pee before ig ot to bed b/c that is when i set the alarm. it makes me feel so much better to know that they are not up in the middle of the night getting into stuff that could hurt them. they are smart enough to get around regular child proofing things. kwim?
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I think this is normal behavior. It was about the same age that my friend's son announced he saw mommy and daddy wrestling naked at the Thanksgiving tabled.
at te table! how embarrassing! lol. that will be a funny story to tell him when he is older.
He didn't "spy" he got up for another reason and saw them. They didn't know it until the announcement.
Part of his announcement was curious. He new what sex. New he saw something but really ignorant.

It is time to talk about boundries.
we have, we call them fences.
I also don't think in this type of a situation it is a big deal. It is something two people love each other do. (To the poster that talk about her mom and her boy friend that wasn't right. )
i know it is normal for kids to be curious. i also know it is something moms and dads should be doing (as in i need to get DH to feel comfortable again. lol). the reason i thought it was a big deal is b/c of DSD1's past. hopefully it is not really a big deal for her. that would be great. i might worry alot. lol

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i've never seen one of those doorknob chimes in a store, WHERE did you get one?

LOL, I not too long ago had THE SEX TALK with my ds, who is 6.5 yrs old.

he KNEW the basic, man plus woman equals baby, baby comes out of the womans vagina, ect ect ect..... boy if I could have gotten the look on his face in a pic when he learned THAT!
BUt he'd recently started asking more in depth questions, so I gave him a brief overview of whats involved and then a few words of wisdom about it being a loving act between adults who are responsible blah blah blah.....

AND THEN... he asks, DID YOU HAVE TO DO THAT TO HAVE ME!!!!!!!

The look on his face was priceless!!!!............

sorry, didn't mean to hijack the thread.......

SO, I second the chime (if I can ever find one:-) and i hope things work out for your kiddo, she seems pretty normal to me.

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i've never seen one of those doorknob chimes in a store, WHERE did you get one?
ace hardware. $13. requires a 9v battery. has an ear piercing alarm as well.
LOL, I not too long ago had THE SEX TALK with my ds, who is 6.5 yrs old.

he KNEW the basic, man plus woman equals baby, baby comes out of the womans vagina, ect ect ect..... boy if I could have gotten the look on his face in a pic when he learned THAT!
BUt he'd recently started asking more in depth questions, so I gave him a brief overview of whats involved and then a few words of wisdom about it being a loving act between adults who are responsible blah blah blah.....

AND THEN... he asks, DID YOU HAVE TO DO THAT TO HAVE ME!!!!!!!

The look on his face was priceless!!!!............
my DSDs were a little surprised when i tild them last week. their momtold me she told them so i didnt think it was too big a deal. they knew about the baby coming out the vagina but DSD1 seriously thought you had to go to the hospital and have a doc cut you open to put the baby in there. i told her the truth before she told me what she thought. she was like, "really, i thought my mom wasnt telling me the truth". her mom is constantly lying to her about this kind of stuff. drives me bonkers.
sorry, didn't mean to hijack the thread.......
no worries. your little guy sounds adorable... and precocious. lol
SO, I second the chime (if I can ever find one:-) and i hope things work out for your kiddo, she seems pretty normal to me.
i am going to use it for other things too. like aleting me if someone is trying to get in the house while i am in the shower etc.
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Seconding that it's normal, but I'm gently suggesting that your DSD might need some more night-time parenting (and fresh air and exercise, and whatever else you do to help her sleep.) My DS1 does this kind of stuff around bedtime and having difficulty sleeping, and it really gets in the way of him being a nice person. Most of the time, when he's sleeping this badly then it turns out that something is on his mind- for instance, when he was being bullied then he was up until 10pm every night of the week It could be worth you doing some spying of your own to figure out what's going on

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How about hanging a good bell on two doorknobs at bedtime? The outside of her bedroom door and the inside of yours? No batteries required : )
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why are you DTD with the door open? I'm not sure how that qualifies as violated since the door was open.
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My 6 and 5 year old DSC live with us full time. They both know what sex is and they are respectful of closed doors. At night though, I frequently have sex with an open door, they are not spies, if they were I would close my door. If need be I would install a lock.

I do want to say, sex is a normal part of life. It's really not the end of the world if they catch you in the act. Just stop and cover, tell them you are having private time and talk to them about it as soon as possible.

Children need to learn boundaries. I can understand a 2-4 year old NEEDING you immediatly, but barring an emergency or a nightmare, there is no reason for them to be up and spying. It's disrespectful.

I think the chime was a great idea...
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