I am likely leaving my relationship with DP shortly over some differences in core beliefs that I cannot feel comfortable about having in my life. I'm hoping the break-up will be amicable. I think he and I can manage that.
I've found that "no contact" for several months post-relationship best facilitates personal healing, and then I generally become friends with my exes...some closer than others.
DP and I have been dating for almost a year. He has 2 daughters, 10 and 15. He lives with the elder. I am close to both, but am unlikely to come into any contact with the younger any time soon. I am likely for a number of reasons to run into the elder. She is also on my myspace and facebook.
If this split occurs, I will consult with DP, of course, but I am looking for advice on what to do or if there is anything for me to do or not do regarding the girls, in particular the elder. The nature of our relationship will inevitably change now, as she will not be seeing me often. She will, however, see me sometimes, I'm sure. It's a small town.
I know every situation is different, but I would like some advice. I don't want the kids to hurt more than they have to. I don't know how much control or influence I have, or what I am personally capable of doing in my grief, but I want to do as well as possible by them because I do love them. And him.
Help. Please only reply if you can be gentle and very kind; I am hurting so much and will run away and not read this any of the replies if someone is anything but very kind to me.