Join Date: Mar 2004
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Okay I'm not pg so I'm crashing your thread. It sounds to me (and I might be totally off) that you feel it's somehow your sister's "fault" she can't get pg because her weight is higher than yours. And your expectations of her happiness for you are too high IMO.
I have PCOS. It works differently in different people. I weigh 250lbs, while my friend who has it is about 160. She has different symptoms than I, and I find it *very* difficult to keep my weight from increasing, while my friend does not share this issue. So yes your sister's weight is higher than yours. But she may have more difficulty with weight than you do, just inherently, not because you are "better" at managing your symptoms than she.
AND... weight may not be the reason she is struggling to conceive. I weighed 266lbs when I got pg with my daughter, and was 271 when I gave birth... naturally, drug free.
So if you are feeling that you are pg because you are working harder and are more deserving, stop. Do your best to support your sis... of course she feels sad and deeply jealous that you are pg so soon while she is not.
And of course you need some folks to be excited for you! You can't expect it from her, so you need to find it elsewhere. Tell lots of people who won't have their own stuff in the way of sharing your joy.