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Heather, we need more information if you want advice. Your post sounds familiar to me. Didn't you start a thread somewhere a few days or a week ago asking basically the same question? If I'm recalling correctly your response at the time was that the doctor was willing to induce next week if *you* got too anxious. I'm sorry if I'm thinking of another poster here, and honestly I just tried to go find the other thread and couldn't in the time I have at the moment.
However, several thoughts come to mind that probably do apply to you, and I'm going to share since you're asking for advice, even though this is not the advice you're asking for.
-If the reason you want to start labor is so that you can experience it before the section and expose the baby to some of the hormones present during labor, that would kind of make sense. But - if you've already tried other natural methods of getting labor started and they're not working, it means that your body and your baby really aren't ready for it. You have to respect that! Why not keep to the schedule that you've got already and give yourself and your baby time to get closer to ready? Try to enjoy what's left of your pregnancy, even if you are big and uncomfortable! Keep having lots of sex, do some nipple stimulation, do whatever it takes to have some orgasms. If you're planning to have a c-section, the size of the baby isn't really important - even if you end up with a 10 or 11 pounder, it doesn't have to fit through your pelvis!
-You're not even considered full term till you're 38 weeks. If your due date calculates you out to 36 weeks right now, you could really be at 33 or 34 weeks and the baby would be premature. You should be avoiding going into labor at this point.
-Breaking of waters is NOT a reliable way of getting labor started. Lots of women have their water break on its own and never go into labor. Breaking waters is a great way to introduce bacteria into your uterus and to your baby. Babies die from infections before they are born. I'm going to be fighting with my midwives at the hospital NOT to break my waters even once I'm in serious labor because having it intact makes labor less painful and helps the baby move into the best position to come out vaginally.
-If you're scheduling a c-section, you don't want to go breaking your waters and doing labor at home for too long. A planned c-section is a lot more fun and relaxing than an emergency one. I am not a proponent of c-sections in general, but I had a scheduled one for breech with my DD. It wasn't a bad experience. We came in relaxed and rested, the staff was relaxed, they let us participate the way we wanted, and I got to be awake and hold my baby right away, even on the operating table and in recovery. An emergency section the way I've heard it described many times involves a lot less commuincation with the mom and dad, often involved general anesthesia, longer separation from your baby, poorer outcomes with nursing and recovery for baby and for mom.
Why don't you tell us the whole story and maybe we can give you better or more specific advice? If you're going to make a decision to do something drastic like this, don't you want it to be an informed one that's well thought-through with support of people who care and want to help? If you're scared or frustrated or worried, things usually seem a lot worse with fewer options when you're thinking about them on your own instead of talking them through with others.
If you really want advice just on how to break your waters, go look on Google. I'm sure you'll find an answer there. But I'd much rather see you come back here and talk through the whole situation first.
Okay, and I'm editing to add: Which is it? are you going to be induced or are you going to have a c-section? You've said both. I don't know of a doctor who would bother inducing labor so that you can then have a c-section. I really feel like there is a lot more to your story that you're not sharing with us, and I don't think that is very fair.