I haven't had alot to complain about, but suddenly it's like I can't do ANYTHING right, according to one of my sisters.
I saw her this weekend, and I was complaining about my house and some of the problems with it. But hey, it's paid for, and at least I have a home. Not to mention, we live on my husband's family's AWESOME land, in the country, with lots of privacy, horses running around, lots of wildlife, etc. These are things that are important to DH and I. Well she starts going off about how we should just sell all our land and get a real house. Or move in with my ILs, who have a large house
. I mentioned something about my kids having to share one bedroom for awhile, until we can build a house (something in the forseeable future, not some pipe dream). She was like, 'Your kids can't share a room! They're going to have to have seperate rooms." Yeah, maybe by the time they are in junior high, but for awhile, I don't see what the problem is. The only other spare room we have in our house is where we keep the computer, our huge book collection, coats, extra clothes, etc. and is also our home office for our business. And she was trying to tell me we are just going to have to give it up and move all that stuff elsewhere. This made me start feeling like maybe I am just being selfish, and I was about ready to cry. I told my other sister about it, and she was furious with the first one for making me feel that way, and convinced me that there is nothing wrong with anything we are doing.
Then, because our business is just getting going, and we're not making a profit yet, we should sell our business and get jobs
. Never mind that this business is DH's dream, and all he has ever wanted to do, and neither one of us has really had a job that wasn't some minimum-wage waste of time.
Then today, my other sister told me that the first sister is totally freaked out about me thinking about not vaxing, and about homeschooling. Even though she has never said a word about either one to me. I understand where this sister is coming from, because she was a nursing student for a long time, and she's a teacher now, so of course she's going to have those opinions.
Also, DH's sister (who is alot like my sister!) is convinced that I can't cope with natural childbirth, and that our kids are going to be weird if we homeschool.
It's hard for us because we are the first people in our family to do any of these things, and we don't have friends that do any of this, either. My midwives and my Bradley teacher are into some of these things, and they are the only "real-life" people we know who do them. I get alot of help from this forum, luckily. Also, my ILs are cool about everything we want to do, and the rest of my family defends my choices, even though they are choices that they would never personally make. It's pretty sad when one or two people can make you feel like you are a f*$k-up, and that you are going to turn your children into freaks.
Sorry this is so long. I just had to vent! I figure alot of you have things to vent about, too, so we might as well vent together. I'm really glad to have people like you guys around for support, even if you all live FAR away from me
. It's better than nothing.