I heard the name "Noah" so much that I started liking it, and now for months it's been the top choice for our boy. Would it be rude to use it? Our friends live over an hour away, so even if someday they have a boy (and her dh goes for the name Noah), our kids wouldn't spend a lot of time together. Plus they're starting out with new careers, so it wouldn't be unheard of if they moved across country. On the other hand, we really like them, so we're hoping they stay in the area.
I've mentioned to my friend that we'll probaby use the name, and she says she's fine with it. I'm unconvinced, though, because she keeps suggesting other boy names. When we talked yesterday, I told her we haven't decided on a name yet (which is true), but I felt uncomfortable and didn't tell her the full extent of our love of "Noah."
Would you be upset if a friend of yours used a name you had been considering? I think I'd be annoyed if a family member used the same name (two cousins named the same seems weird), but in a group of friends it seems likely that some kids will have the same name. Especially common ones like Noah.
Am I handling this poorly?
If you like that name, I say go with it!
I think, go with your gut...it's never wrong. If you think that you will always wonder whether or not you did the right thing, it's not worth using Noah.
Hope that helps in some way...
There was an episode of Seinfeld about this very topic.
I say name him that if that's the name you feel passionately about, your friends will get over it - that is, if there's anything to get over.
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I think I'll talk it over with my friend, and hopefully over time she really will seem okay with it. Dh says "how do we even know they'll have a boy?".... I laughed and said "that's what they said on Mothering!"
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