Wow Yvonne, that was some emotional birth story - THAT'S what I mean about regrets!
I should have been more clear in my post - my first two births were with a mw in a hospital. Now my first birth, while drug free, was not intervention free. The nurses insisted on running an IV through my hand - to this day I swear that hurt more than giving birth. If I had done more research, I could have been more prepared, but it was my first & I didn't know all of the options.
My second birth was at the same hosp. & my mw didn't make it in time to catch my Dd. This time, however, I was feisty & refused everything, the nurses did not like that!
I have huge regrets about delivering in the hosp. I hated that they took my Dd's away & poked & prodded them - I still cry thinking about Dd2 getting pricked repeatedly for the PKU while she screamed hysterically & my Dd1 & I stood outside the nursery crying & banging on the glass. I am to blame, I could have refused to hand them over, now I know all of that.
I started out scheduled to see the same mw this pg & the way my insurance works, I have to see her through a clinic. It is the clinic that caused me to switch, not my mw. They were so booked that even though I called around 10 wks to schedule, my appt wasn't until 17 wks - which, at the time was fine with me.
At 12.5 wks I ended up hemmorhaging, just gushing blood flow after flow. I thought I was losing the baby for sure. I went to the ER & had a u/s where we saw baby bouncing around happily. The ER doc was a jerk, not explaining anything to me & saying that I may or may not lose this baby.
I tried to get in touch with my mw & it took a day or two. I stayed in bed all week wondering if my baby was alive. Finally on Friday I couldn't take it anymore & was having regular contractions & called the clinic to ask if I could take xanex to calm down. They yelled at me & said that if I was that concerned that I should just go to the ER
So I did. Another u/s showed a healthy baby once again. After I explained my story, the doctors covinced me to switch to their affiliated practice. At this point I just wanted to be able to see or talk to someone when I had a concern, so I kept the appt I made.
We have some local HB mw's but they charge $3500. They will barter, but the price will still be too high for us. If I birth at the hosp (or home, UC) insurance will cover everything.
I can't imagine not sleeping with my beloved Dd's because the hosp won't let me leave & I can't leave without my baby. I don't want CPS called because I just want to leave the hosp immediately. I've never been seperated from either of them overnight except Dd1 when I stayed for a night at the hosp when I had Dd2.