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Yes, my sister who is 42, never married and has no children, is a child rearing expert!

Among her advice:

1. Baby should NEVER be rocked to sleep. She should fall asleep in her crib by herself.

2. Baby should be fully weaned before she is 1 year old.

3. No sippy cups after 18 months.

4. Baby should be potty trained at 2.

5. NO co-sleeping.

6. You can spoil a child by picking it up and holding it too often.

I'm gonna be a terrible mom!
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I hope you are the most terrible mom ever in your sister's eyes.
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And, pray tell, where did she pick up all this stellar advice??
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Greetings

I had to check out your thread, seen it on New Posts.

I am sorry but I must be one hell of a horrible mother.

Co-slept all my children, still do.
EBF for years, tandem nursed.
Rock my DC to sleep with boob in their mouths.
Sling/Wrap my DC, even the DS wrap/sling the baby


Yeah, Im a bad mom!
Does she HONESTLY believe this stuff, better yet, does she plan to have children herlsef?
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Well, in her defense, I have been known to have said some VERY stupid things with regard to parenting before I actually had the experience to back it up...

...but I am pretty sure I had the good sense not to actually impart it as ADVICE! Good grief. And I fully admit when I have been wrong.

Sometimes you just don't know where your life is going to take you, KWIM? Hopefully if she ever does have children, she'll get to go on a little journey of her own.
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That reminds me of my best friend (who does not even WANT children) giving my other dear friend a dog training book to help her out with her kids. I've already set the boundary with her to NOT tell me how to raise my children.

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My sister was the same way until HER son was born. Little darling absolutely insisted on co-sleeping those first months, was not happy unless he was held, never went to sleep alone and generally made sure that he got the parenting HE needed. She's not AP or NFL by any stretch of the imagination but she did learn that sometimes babies have different ideas than us parents.
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And, pray tell, where did she pick up all this stellar advice??
She and I are both teachers and she has married friends with children that she sees being raised. I don't know if she imparts her knowledge on her friends or saves it up for me.

On a good note...she has no desire to marry, have children or even own a pet. So..... But I may be tempted to tell her at some point that if she thinks she knows what is best when raising a child, she needs to go have one of her own.

I just thought that you all would enjoy knowing what terrible Moms we are...
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I think we all have at least one "friend" or family member like this Whether they make themselves known loudly or not is another matter.

When I married DH I was "strongly warned" about one of the wives in his circle. This woman was much stronger in her convictions of how to properly raise a child BEFORE she had children. But then she had three, and she's even worse, and of course none of the advice she gives is given in a remotely gentle way.

(do I need to add, I don't agree with 95% of it?)
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I just thought that you all would enjoy knowing what terrible Moms we are...
And what terrible Moms the rest of the world is!!! Most of the rest of the world sleep with their babies, wear their babies, breastfeed on demand, etc.
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I just love it (not) when people do that! I personaly whould never have the nerve to give advice on something I didn't have personal experience with!
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