For the first time I've begun the weaning process without another child to put to breast, and it's been HARD. I started by cutting out day and nap nursings, but we still nurse at night. By nightfall I feel so full! and my breasts are more painful than they've ever been. NO FUN!
Well, it felt good to talk about it, but I'm not sure I was much of a help! (((((HUGS))))) sandi
Dd still nurses to nap, to sleep and in the morning, but much much less than before. Sometimes it hurts, but since I'm determined to CLW I just get through it.
Not too many people know I'm nursing while pg, so it's great to be able to be 'open' here!
Are any of you increasing your food intake to compensate providing for two (or more?)?
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I am ready for her to quit now but not keen to forcibly wean her. She has been dropping nightime and afternoon feeds though so I am hopeful that this is the begginning of the end so to speak. I had planned to continue until she was two but I am finding pregnancy and nursing very draining and I do not want to tandem nurse if I can at all help it.
I think she mainly nurses for comfort because she eats non stop all day and the feeds feel like comfort feeds. She gets very angry if I try to refuse her though.
He wass till nursing ALL the time until I was about 15 weeks and sudddenly he's only nursing to sleep and in the morning!
I can't express any milk but he says it's there????
I also think he just nurses to soothe at this point and doesn't really care if he's getting any milk or not.
The biggest thing I am looking forward to is not having to go through the sore nipples again! When this baby is born I'll have been nursing for nearly three years and I'm hoping that I will avoid engorgement and nipple sensitivity in those early days. Man was that bad last time!
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BooBah is all good, though. She's digesting her food (has been for some time, her brother was fully 18 months old before this happened), growing, and happy with things the way that they are. She likes to snuggle with me, but she's just not interested in nursing.
Gosh if I tried it 4 or 5 months ago it wouldn't have worked, butnow I can tell him before sleep that we'll nurse now and in the morning - and after nursing a bit I tell him "ditty" is sleeping and he'll snuggle next to me and fall asleep without nursing.
So we still nurse upon waking - for naps when we're home and at bedtime - with other times sprinkled in between when required. We've been having busy days out a lot and DS will nap in the car and I'll park it and read a good book - so with that a few days a week we are cutting down.
I'm not opposed to tandem nursing if that's what my son needs, but I was getting faint after nursing with this pregnancy - I just simply can't seem to get enough food into my body - I was a healthy weight to begin with - but we are very very active and my metabolism has been zooming for a while.
My ds will also be almost 3 when this baby arrives - I know lots of people say the tandem thing hleps, but I just think it might mean 12 triggers a day for my ds and I'm not sure I'll be able to do both - again the calorie thing - even while just bf'ing my son for the first 6 months or so I had to be so careful about eating, I was loosing weight and really felt like I spent a good part of my day consuming food. I eat a ton of healthy whole foods, and they take time to prepare and eat - maybe I'll start on a junk food kick LOL! I was down to my pre-preg weight at 6 weeks last time and let me tell you if you had seen the copious amounts of milk coming out of me -it was shocking! I had to pump becasue I was running a fever and wean myself from pumping and then toss gallons of milk because my ds never took a bottle.
Hey - maybe I will encourgae ds to keep going - at least until all that stablizes (although I can't imagine having that much milk again - ds was a breech c-sec and with this one - a planned HBAC - I think my body might be a bit more tired than it was the first time around).
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Some days it hurts a LOT--for some reason much more when I am lying down, and since we nurse in bed before nap, before bed, and 2-4 times per night, it's been hard. Tonight I actually turned out the lights, banished dh to the spare bedroom, and nursed on the couch. Much less painful--maybe the angle of her mouth?
I'm hoping she stays interested--and that I have milk; I wanted to nurse her to age 2 minimum.
I'm also a little concerned that I'm not eating enough. I really haven't put on any weight yet and I was at a healthy weight before getting pregnant.
For now I'm just going to try cutting out the middle of the night nursings and see where it goes from there.
The other night (about a week ago), DS was nursing. He stopped and looked at me and started crying, saying "that boobie not working mommy, other boobie please" - it broke my heart, but I must be honest and say that I do not look forward to the soreness in my nipples when he nurses, even when just for comfort. So, if he weaned at this point, I'd be fine if he picked up again when babe #2 is born.
As for eating, I feel like I eat a lot, but have put on about 7 pound total from my pre-PG weight, which was a good weight for me to start at (about 123).
The soreness has gotten a bit better (I'm 28 weeks now) as long as I stay hydrated and eat well.
I think I'll be buying the book Adventures in Tandem Nursing sometime soon.
DH says that it's good I was willing to keep going, but shouldn't be so sad that it's over because DS is happy. I guess it's a good point, but I thought you guys would understand my sadness! I plan on spacing my 3rd further out than these 2, so hopefully this next one will get a little longer.