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What does your intuition say?

With my DS both DH and I were so sure from the start that he was a boy and I had lots of vivid boy dreams. This time I dont really have any vibes at all and have not had any dreams about babes gender. S/he is definately going to be a big suprise

Also how are you referring to baby? With ds we always used 'he' and then his name which we decided after our 2nd trimester scan. This time I am saying baby but it doesn't feel quite right!
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With dd...I was pretty sure it was a girl and had prayed for a girl. Then u/s confirmed it was a girl. This time we are intervention free and not finding out. In fact, yesterday was the first time we had even heard the heartbeat and that was just because I couldn't resist the temptation as we had our first appt with our midwife. (I'm 20 weeks)

Anyway, I thought for sure this one was a boy and had prayed for a boy. But then I asked dd if it was a boy or a girl and she said girl. A couple days later I rephrased it and asked her if she thought it was a baby brother or a baby sister. She immediately said sister and now says several times a day "Baby Sister come out!" "Baby sister come out and share nursies!" (She's 26 months) And then also...the midwife's daughter (and adult) predicted it to be a girl because the heartbeat was in the 140's. Now, I KNOW that's an old wives tale and don't give it much credit. But, I'm a little thrown off by dd's comments.

I would be really surprised if it was a girl ....though the idea is growin on me. I guess we'll have to wait and see! We had been calling it a he or Christian (the name we'd use for a boy) but even then sometimes DH would slip and call it her. So we have no set standard I guess.

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I wanted a girl with my first and I got it and then with my second I wanted a boy, but got another beautiful girl. This time I don't care and I have been having these real dreams of having a boy with brown curly hair and big beautiful brown eyes. Something is just saying this is a boy. I find out on December 5th and we'll see if my intuition is right.
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I think this ones a boy. I have 2 boys already and its hard not to imagine anouther one. My family really wants a girl since she would be the only girl grandbaby so far.

They want to girlify her to all extremes and I just cant take that. I was a total tomboy and still am for the most part and I dont want her to think she cant do something her brothers are doing just cuz she is a girl. My mom and SIL are already wanting to buy frilly foo foo dresses for a newborn! I will let them have a little fun, I wont be a total buzz kill but they are the kind of women who cant even change a tire because its a mans job!

ANyways Its probably best if I had the girls in the family!

So I dont know if I just want anouther boy and am nervous about a girl or if it really is anouther boy. I dont think Im having girl vibes at all but I second guessed my boy vibes with my two boys. It will be and is already really fun not knowing I like the suprise!
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I think that...I really have no idea. Although I trust intuition on a lot of things, not on this since to many things get in the way. I'm not buying any clothes until after- if it's a boy we won't need very many if it's a girl she can wear the green stuff until we get out of the house. I'm just sticking with-- "it" I guess, or "this baby". I know it sounds kind of bad, but it slips out anyway, it's hard not to use a pronoun and he/she sounds kind of silly in oral speech.
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From the night we conceived until my 11 week appointment I was absolutely 100% certain this baby was a girl. I just knew it. But since then, I've been a little mixed, but I lean towards thinking it's a boy. I had lots of girl dreams in the beginning and I've had boy dreams recently. I really just don't know, but if I had to guess now I'd say BOY!
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with my dd, i had at least two dreams in first trimester she was a girl and then everyone started convincing me it was a boy because every single old-wives tale test said boy(except for chinese gender prediction chart) and so i had mentally prepared myself for a boy. we even had a name picked out, but no name for a girl. then we had a girl.

this time around, i had 2 dreams it was a boy in the first trimester and haven't had a single baby dream since. i haven't done any old wives tests, but did look at the chinese gender chart and it says boy. i think you can google "chinese gender prediction chart" and it will bring it up easily for you. I'd love to know what it says for you!

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I don't tell people I think its a girl, but I'd be very surprised if I had a boy.

We call the baby "Bit". That's the nickname my sister came up with, because my husband is a computer geek.

As the baby gets older s/he can be byte, then megabyte... etc etc.

She had nicknamed my sister-in-law's pregnancy, so now she feels like its her thing. Ok.
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I have NO clue! LOL With my DD, I just KNEW she was a girl! From the minute I found out I was pregnant, I knew... (I also REALLY wanted a girl, so I guess I got lucky, too! LOL)

This time, I keep going back and forth! And I have had one boy dream and one girl dream. BUt I have had several twin dreams! LOL (I don't think I am carrying twins, though. I think it is more that I get SOOO sick being pregnant and we would *like* to have 3 kids, but I don't think I can be pregnant again... LOL)

My mom has been right 100% for her grandkids as to what they are... But she says that she cannot at all pinpoint what this one is! The Chinese Chart says girl... (It said girl for my DD, too) I guess we will REALLY have a surprise come April!!!

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With this one, I've been thinking girl but everyone takes one look at my belly and says BOY! So any insticts have been diluted with so many boy comments. We find out on Wed. I wouldn't be surprised if it was a boy. It will be my 4th.
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Absolutely no idea! In some ways I lean towards a boy, but that's entirely based (as far as I can tell) from outside influences. EVERYONE has predicted this baby is a boy (and we have just 2 girls so far) so I guess that kind of gets to me. It annoys me, actually, because I'm really looking forward to being surprised and if this little one pops out a boy then I think it will be like, "oh, of course you're a boy". We mostly refer to the baby as "the baby" but a couple days ago my older dd called it "baby apple" so we've used that just a bit (and sometimes they change the fruit to banana or something). Oh, and my older dd doesn't SAY that it's a boy but she is very insistent that she'll ONLY be happy with a brother.

Oh, with my first dd where we did not find out the gender until birth, most people told me she was a boy (b/c of how I was carrying I guess). I don't remember what people thought with my 2nd dd, but that time I absolutely knew (and then had it confirmed with u/s) that she was a girl - but that was b/c I knew we couldn't possibily have conceived a boy based on the dates we did it.

Mandy - If you want to be low tech, why not just have the mw listen to the hb with a fetascope? That's what I'm doing (and she was able to hear it at my 18 week (exactly) appointment).

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My midwife will be using a fetascope too, I have my next appointment at about 22weeks so I'm excited for her to be able to use it then
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Everybody (including me) seems to think this one is a girl but I won't be surprised if it's a boy as I seem not to be able to make girls (2 boys already). We'll see in April.
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I don't remember what people thought with my 2nd dd, but that time I absolutely knew (and then had it confirmed with u/s) that she was a girl - but that was b/c I knew we couldn't possibily have conceived a boy based on the dates we did it.
I don't want to pry too much but what are you refering to? (Answer only if you feel comfortable.)
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We just call it "the baby". I think it might be a boy, but I am not strong in that thought.

I am a little curious though. Not as curious as last time. My DD keeps me so busy, I often forget I am pregnant (if that is possible).
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This time... I think it might be a girl. No dreams that indicate that or anything, just a weird feeling. Although I really was hoping to prove MIL wrong (we told her the day we got two little pink lines, and since I hadn't [had a chance to] feel nauseated, she was determined it's going to be a girl).

I call it "it" though. Same with ds (we didn't find out with him either). It took me a few weeks to go from calling ds "it" to calling him by his name after he was born.

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I really feel girl...but not as sure as I felt for my ds being a boy.

We call s/he Baby Boots, it's what my 3 year old decided should be the name until the birth!
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For my first we were so sure we were having a boy. Everybody said it, healers we knew, every old wives method, our feelings, etc. Then, guess what- a girl! We were told later by a spiritual teacher of ours that she wanted us to think she was a boy and also that her intense energy is usually associated with boys. Even when she was a baby people thought she was a boy, although she is a really pretty feminine sort of girl physcially.

The next one we thought would be and boy and the one after. Both girls. Every time our conviction has been less. Then just when I felt totally ready to not have an opinion this teacher I mentioned said we would have a BOY. But, it isn't easy to explain to people that a channelled entity we really trust says were having a boy so we are, so mostly we just have to say- 'we'll see' or I've been saying, 'it has been predicted' that we will have a boy.

After three girls it would be quite a trip. I think it would add a balance, too, so I can believe it. I have also had a bunch of boy dreams.

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DH is convinced it's a girl. I have dreamed birth twice, and both times was a girl. We were in a car accident at 16 weeks, and went back in the MW's to hear the heart after (it happened right as we were pulling out of MW's from apt.), and I got the strongest girl vibe as baby nestled right up to the dopler to let us hear the heart (the other time we'd tried to listen, baby kept moving away-- anyhow).

We call Baby either Baby or "Pinecone." although, aparently, I've slipped and called baby by the girl name we love (we have no boy names... literally NONE sound right... maybe that's a sign too?)



I love not knowing, though.... finding out always seems wrong to me. Not sure why!
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We call Baby either Baby or "Pinecone." although, aparently, I've slipped and called baby by the girl name we love (we have no boy names... literally NONE sound right... maybe that's a sign too?)
I forgot about this! With ds we had a girl name and a boy name, but the girl name just didn't sit right with us. Now we have a girl name we like (or that dh tolerates) and no boy name. Kinda strange.

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I had a dream last night that I gave birth to a boy. This was my firs baby dream since becoming pregnant. I find out tomorrow what I'm having.
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I'm 99% certain that this is a boy. I was 100% certain that BeanBean was a boy, to the point where I was telling people that he was a boy in the same breath that I said I was pregnant. My best friend had been hoping for a girl and would point at my abdomen and say, "Be a girl!" and I would laugh and say, "He can't, he's a BOY." Mike was kind of hoping for a girl, too, so he was totally put off by my adamant BOY statements. Sure enough, BeanBean was/is indeed a BOY.

I was pretty sure that BooBah was a girl, but I didn't get the same strong, overwhelming feelings with her that I did with BeanBean. I never counted myself more than 70% certain of her sex until we saw her on an ultrasound. I wasn't surprised at all. I think that it was an energy thing-- BeanBean's boy energy was so different from my own girl energy that I could tell immediately. BooBah's girl energy was more similar to my own, so while I was pretty sure I wasn't as confident.

This time, I feel that strong, masculine feeling again. I'm definately leaning very heavily towards boy, and will be utterly shocked if we find out that this is a girl baby.

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That's how I feel about this baby: that I have a sense of the gender now, and from the beginning of the pregnancy too, actually. The last one, her energy felt like a girl, and she was. this one, from the beginning feels like a boy: like Eilonwy says about how the energy is different from my own, same here. The friends who are kind of spiritually tuned into things like that are right there with me. I think it is mostly because DH resents me saying it is a boy that I want to have a scientific more "definite" answer. Hopefully we'll get that soon!

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I didn't have a sense of gender with ds until maybe I was 6 or so months along. Someone asked me what I thought it was going to be, if I had any sort of feeling about it, and I told her, that I hadn't. Then a week later, it just struck me, and I thought, this is a boy. All through the pregnancy everyone kept telling us that it was going to be a girl based on this or that, but in the end, it was a boy. I started to have dreams though, about different male friends and relatives, and they were always dressed up as girls... only time will tell us what those dreams meant...

So far, I have no inclinations as to what this one is going to be. it's a totally different pregnancy, but that could mean many different things.

We haven't really come up with a nickname yet for this one. We called ds "herm" because we were always referring to "him" or "her" but this time around I find myself referring to "the baby".
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I think that it was an energy thing-- BeanBean's boy energy was so different from my own girl energy that I could tell immediately. BooBah's girl energy was more similar to my own, so while I was pretty sure I wasn't as confident.
Interesting point, I feel like this baby is a girl but nowhere near as sure as I was that DS was boy
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Well my instincts said girl and everyone else said boy. I just had an ultrasound today and it's a girl.
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