do any of your DH's do their own research about baby issues?? i know my DH will research for a month and talk non stop about the new hunting pants he really wants. but if i bring up circ more then a couple of times then i am just annoying?? AHH!!!
I agree that some of the threads have been pretty hormonal too.
Allison wife and mom to four.
I hve a quick reaction time these days. I am trying to phrase everything very very gently so as not to similarly piss off those with an equally quick reaction time. But it is only very specific things that piss me off currently - and they are the same thing that get me when I am not pg...just not as fast or as bad.
DH doesn't research anything on his own - fortunately he trust me to do so - so no worries there.
And of course I am paranoid.. I think everyone means I have been short tempered and hormonal! Which is true, so I guess it isn't paranoia...
Adina mama to B 4/06 and E 8/13/12 (on her due date!)
DH doesn't do any research and that secretly upsets me a little sometimes -- he trusts me to only I wish he would be a little more motivated on his own.
But he's probably afraid I'll chew his head off if he finds info that I disagree with *laughs* Poor thing. He's the only one to escape most of my moodiness.
I did tell him that he'd have to not just read but learn the info in the birthing book. And ever so often I just sort of move it a little on the table. That seems to help.
Have you tried printing out research on circ and leaving it where he'll see it? Not the subtlest of tactics but it might work. I think men don't get the whole really having a baby thing until it's crowning....
New to the list and to mothering.com in general. Very glad to have been directed here. VERY glad to hear you all commenting on emotional/hormonal waves. Usually I'm really even tempered - not lately. haven't been able to deal with stress. It's like the real me is watching the pregnant me and shaking her head saying "get a hold of yourself, girl!" I know it was like this last time too but its little consolation when every time my partner is in a bad mood I'm SURE that our marriage is doomed. A little extreme to say the least...
On the dh thing - my dh never researches anything. I do it and tell him how I want to do things. We've had small disagreements here or there, but I don't think he's up for fighting for his unresearched stance b/c I've always gotten my way w/o much effort at all. Circ was an issue when I was pg with my first and we didn't find out she was a girl until she was born. But basically we took Bradley classes, I learned about it there, said I wouldn't be doing that, he gave the typical "he'll look different" arguement, but it wouldn't have gone further than that. Like I said, I just don't think he's up for the fight.
An extrovert, married to my introverted dh since '01, mothering my girls C (2003) and G (2006).
Love homeschooling, reading, cooking (most of the time grain-free except for when I'm not ), lactivist, former and wanna-be cloth diaperer and baby-wearer...