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Originally Posted by love_homebirthing
I'd say (not to be rude or anything towards your family), but consider the source of who's telling you negative stuff. They don't sound very educated in the matter. So let it roll off your back.
We're here to support you and we will b/c we know better! You CAN do this mama! Lots of us have been first timers who went natural when no one else they knew had or would even consider it. Thankfully the people who matter most (your mom & dh) are in your corner. Just don't let anyone who isn't near you in labor.
Originally Posted by Daisie125
The sad thing is, that when it does happen, they will make all sorts of excuses like "well, it was a short labor" or "she's probably lying about not having drugs" or whatever else they can come up with to make themselves feel better.
mama to a sweet girl , & 4 silly boys
Originally Posted by Mom2-4Gs
My MIL said she was glad she would be out of town and I said well your weren't invited anyway!
Originally Posted by mamaginabean
Long post, sorry....
I am going for an unmedicated birth. I know that I can do this, my body was made to do this. The other day, my sister says *out of the blue* "I don't think you're going to do very well with labor pain". She has no children. Does she think that because she has endometriosis that she's like the pain expert or something? Hurt feelings #1.
Last week, we're over at my MIL's house and she asks if we've taken any classes. I told her that we took a "coping with labor class", and my DH chimes in that it was a huge waste of time since it was basically a "get an epidural and deal that way" class. So she says...."So that's what you're going to do, right...get the epidural?" I told her no, I'm going natural. She has the *ahem* balls to say "Why, because you THINK it's better for the baby?". This coming from a woman that had a c-section because DH was "too big" at 8lbs5oz, didn't breastfeed, etc etc etc. Ummmm....no, I KNOW it's better for the baby, it's not like it's my opinion or something. Hurt feelings #2.
My cousin was talking to my mom and mom told her that I was doing this natural and that it's written in my chart not to even offer meds. Cousin says "Oh yeah, I had that written in my chart too. It won't last." This also coming from a woman who has had Demoral for the births of all of her children, thinks that breastfeeding is too much of an "inconvenience" etc.etc.
Hurt feelings #3.
I just feel like I'm the weird one for wanting to do what nature intended.... and that everyone else is normal for wanting an epidural or pain meds. The only people that believe in me is myself, my mom, and my husband. Why am I getting almost no support in this? The only time I feel "normal" about my decisions is when I'm here on this board.....I don't know anyone even semi-crispy in real life.