I didn't mention circ in my previous post, but our ds is circ'd. Not sure if that will happen again since I personally wouldn't circ if it was up to me but dh was adamant with ds... and yes, I gave him ALL the the current information and yes, he watched a video of one being done. I did insist that he comfort ds during the surgery in the ped's office (ped showed him how to let ds suck on his finger), he made sure the ped used pain relief and of course once it was done I came back in the room and nursed him (while I cried
). It healed quickly and he didn't seem to suffer any long-term effects like colic, crying etc thankfully... if he had it would have really made things bad in our marriage since I was so against it.
I find it strange and ironic to choose to circ for non-religious reasons (I don't consider my Christianity a religious reason to circ) after having an all natural homebirth and not vaxing etc, but that's the way things worked out last time and might work out this time.
I don't mention it (ds being circ'd) much online because my feelings get hurt, but I am married and consider it a partnership. I make so many of the decisions in our family that I want to give dh some say when he has strong feelings about something. Our disagreement on circ caused a rift in our marriage and a lot of stress on myself that manifested itself in physical problems while I was in the final days of my pregnancy so in the end I compromised.
I do honestly wonder if dh will want to circ again after witnessing ds being circ'd. I guess we'll see if he makes the arrangements after the birth if it's a boy.
And of course, I'll be sure to leave the pregnancy edition of Mothering with the circ article in the bathroom so he'll end up seeing it when he's on the throne.
Enough of my