About the Circ~ When we had our son 10 years ago my DH also wanted to Circ~ I told him no way He persisted so I told him if you really want to do this fine you go set up the appt & you take him & you comfort him! No way am I going to be involved in it at all~ Well here we are 10 years later & he is still not Circ But I knew that if I made him take full responsibility he would not go through with it~
Not scientific but worked for me
You won't find any anti-bfing here! As for circ, my DH is the same way, wants to circ. I think i'm losing this battle though. Hope you fare better than me!
Cindy + DH Paul = DS1 (4/26/06), DS2 (11/30/07), DD (12/20/10) & surprise 4th edition coming in April 2014.
Bradley Method Natural Childbirth Educator, Doula, and Breastfeeding Counselor
We were in a no-circ battle too... except my dh went through with it even though the whole thing was his responsibility. No one online seemed to think a dh would follow through, but he sure did. He even changed diapers until it had healed (part of the agreement). :drop We haven't even discussed it this time, I'm hoping he won't want to follow through after watching last time.
We're not circ'ing. Thankfully my dh is down w/ whatever I choose so it was easy. Mothering.com definitely helped me w/ my decision though. Before I came here I never really even thought about circumcision. I went on the circ'ing board here (lots of great info!) and read and read and read and decided it's such a pointless and cruel thing. I hope your dh/dh's change their minds! Good Luck Mama's!
Just curious, what do people say when they're against breastfeeding? Are they truly against it or do they just think it would be hard and don't have a lot of support? Honestly just curious. I don't have much experience with non-breastfeeding moms.
I hope you guys are able to come to an agreement as far as the circing goes. Hopefully he decides against!
"A computer once beat me at chess, but it was no match for me at kick boxing." ~ Emo Philips
Me, DH, DS1, DS2, November 2012 , July 2013 , March 2014
Waiting on my SunshineBaby
"And now," cried Max "let the wild rumpus begin!"
My DH initially wanted to circ our first, "because that's just what you do", but as soon as I gave him more info he changed his mind. He is now anti-circ. Even if he hadn't, I would have put my foot down.
For the mamas who are having trouble convincing their DHs - I recommend reading this article, it may help you deal with him.
I basically used the tactic in the article - not criticising my DH's status but saying, it's 50/50 now, most boys are "fine" either way, so let's do the painless, reversible option.
And once he agreed to that I started dropping the horrible bits - how about 75% of circs are done with no pain relief whatsoever. How they sell the foreskins, without anyone's permission, to be made into face creams and skin grafts and have cosmetics tested on them. How common serious complications are. How little you can do if they occur. How babies feel pain MUCH more intensely than adults, and get no aftercare painkillers. Etc etc.
with first : and will have a : in May