But...what I do need to do is plan for the unexpected. If, God forbid, I need to be transferred, I need to gear up for that. Luckily my m/w is also a doula and will be as used to dealing with hospital births as she is homebirths. I think that will help a lot.
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This one will be a VBAC at a hospital with midwives. I definitely want to do one this time. I know they do have a worksheet thing that they give you that is a starting point. I was also thinking of posting on here and seeing if anyone had advice.
Luckily with this being my second and close enough together that i remember how my first one went I'm not that worried about getting it all figured out right now. I know what I liked and didn't like with DS and can work towards the goal of making this time better.
It doesn't have anything she has any problem with, but some of my requests are definitely in the way of flouting standard hospital policy, so I wanted her to be aware of them and on board before the time comes.
(Though I should note that the hospital's birthing center generally doesn't have a problem with flouting standard policy in birthing, but they like to be aware ahead of time so the nurses can be prepared . . . our FP office actually hands out a packet with a 5-page bullet point list by category of what is standard policy or offered at the hospital, followed by a blank birth plan to fill in that they send to the hospital a month before your due date. It's a pretty cool system.)
Some of the things I wanted clarified before we get there:
*I don't want a heplock; it was distracting last time
*same thing with the periodic monitoring belts; I'd prefer the newer waterproof, wire-free kind if they have it or intermittent handheld Doppler monitoring
*I plan to eat and drink freely during labor
*I don't want pain meds offered to me; at certain points in labor, I'd probably take them up on that offer, but I know I'd regret it
*episiotomy is not an option unless there's an extreme emergency (our lovely doc said, "Well, duh")
*if there is a life-threatening emergency and I need a C-section, I want double-layer stitching of my uterus, not single-layer
*likewise in that situation, I don't want my arms tied down during surgery
*and I want the baby to go to dh asap for skin-to-skin and to me asap(2) for nursing and skin-to-skin (or vice versa if the C-sectioning allows for it)
*let the cord stop pulsing before cutting and dh wants to cut it
*NO circumcision!!!! No retraction of our son's foreskin!!!!
*no eye goop or Hep B vax; probably oral vitamin K instead of the injection (I need to do some more reading on that one)
Some of the standard policy I was fine with and it didn't need to be specified in our birth plan. For example, it's SOP at the hospital for the baby to go straight onto Mama's chest for skin-to-skin time and nursing barring need for medical attention; they don't weigh the baby or interfere with bonding in any way for at least an hour, more if requested. Rooming in of both baby and partner is standard. Changing positions frequently during labor is encouraged; some of the nurses are also trained in massage therapy and can lend a hand during labor.
There are a couple items on the list I also asked my doctor to check out, because I don't remember seeing them offered last time and they sound good to have: aromatherapy and perineal massage during pushing. She's going to find out what the scoop is there and get back to me.
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Also, my birth plan is broken down into stages (1st, 2nd, 3rd and infant care). Its just easier to follow that way. If you want I can email you a copy and you can see what its all about and maybe use it as an outline.
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