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#1 of 11 Old 03-22-2006, 05:42 PM - Thread Starter
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I have nothing. I've done nothing. I've planned nothing. I dont have my baby furniture, I have no bedding for him, I have nothing. And I suppose now is the time I should be freaking out... I only have like 10 weeks left and I'm SOOO unprepared. We have bought baby clothes... but not a ton of them like I believe he needs... we have no shoes for this baby... he's going to be barefoot... even though I realize he wont be walking for a while... But still.... Am I the only person who isn't ready for the baby to be here? I thought the last trimester slowed down A LOT?? Not for me. It keeps speeding up... maybe thats because I'm not ready... heck I have no clue... My first fear was my baby wasn't going to have a name, then we picked one, and now it's that he isn't going to have a place to sleep. (I'm not joking... I layed in bed and cried my eyes out because "my baby wasn't going to have a name") I just want everything to be perfect for him... and I feel like it's not going to be if I dont start finding some of this stuff soon... ugh... I guess this all normal fears...
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I know I'm not in your due date club, but I saw your post and wanted to respond. I know that it feels like you need a lot of stuff because of all the mainstream commercialism shoved down our throats day in and day out. Honestly, what you have right now is probably just fine as far as clothes. They can be washed and reused! Plus you can always get more as time goes by and the baby grows. You never really know how much clothing, what kind, or how big until the baby gets here anyway. And as far as shoes go, it is better for your baby's developing feet to not even wear them until they start walking, or if you're that worried, there are always crib slippers like Robeez or Bobux.

As far as furniture is concerned, you don't really need special furniture for your baby. Even if you've made up your mind right now about not co-sleeping, you may change your mind once the little one gets here. I know we did! We bought a huge crib that never even got used. It's sitting unassembled in our garage.

I think if you feel like you need somewhere else for the baby to sleep other than your bed, you could get a bassinet or a side-car. Babies only fit in some bassinets until about 15 pounds or three months. You'd have plenty of time to decide if you wanted a crib or not without buying it before you need it and wasting money if you don't. We had a bassinet that I used for lots of stuff when our ds was small. He didn't really sleep in it, but it was a safe, useful place to set him down during the day.

Here are some really good Mothering articles and links about co-sleeping, in case you want to check them out.
http://www.mothering.com/articles/ne...ep/barone.html

http://www.mothering.com/articles/ne...amily-bed.html
http://www.mothering.com/articles/ne...ep/gordon.html

Whatever your position on co-sleeping is, hopefully these articles will give you a little more info. I know we were never ever going to let our ds sleep with us. We saw the trouble my sister and bil were going through with my dn and sleeping in her own room after co-sleeping for nine months. There was no way that was going to happen to us. Well, ds is now 15 months and hasn't slept by himself for longer than a nap!

Good luck, mama! None of us ever feel like we are ready!

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You have you, and you have your breasts. Mama, that's everything he *needs.* Anything else is gravy.

But I know the feeling. I was so paranoid with my first pregnancy that I didn't buy anything for dd until I was 8 months along. Then she came a little early and I wasn't ready yet. We didn't have the cosleeper, a lot of her clothes, more than a day's worth of diapers . . . and you know what? It was fine. She ended up sleeping with us anyway, by her clearly and loudly stated preference, even after we got the cosleeper. She didn't go through nearly as many clothes in a day as I thought she would. And I picked up more diapers when I had time; meanwhile, dh and I just did some extra laundry.

You'll be fine! Your baby won't care about the things, he'll care about your presence. You have plenty of time to pick up what you want for him, and if some of it doesn't happen until after he's born, you get to show him off in the store to boot. That's always fun!
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I had nothing for my first baby except some pads for PP bleeding, a partialy finished sling that I tried desperately to complete AS I was in labor, lansinoh, 1 nursing bra (I ended up using sports bras most of the time), 6 coth diapers, a few clothes, and a strip of cheese cloth to wrap my belly in. I also had the birth tub and the kit my mw gave me, but if you're not homebirthing, that doesn't apply.

All that I wish I would have had was some sort of something to help my perineum heal. I didn't have witch hazel or sitz bath herbs or anything. This time I bought the earth mama angel baby postpartum care kit, so I feel a ton better! I also bought a postpartum support belt because the cheese cloth was really hard to wrap by myself and my ex only stayed home for 2 days after dd was born. This time we've planned 2 weeks off! Here's what else I've bought (or had others buy for me) this time: a boppy nursing pillow, a rail for the side of the bed (we are co-sleepers), car seat, car seat head support, cloth diaper supply, nipple cream, a bit of clothes and some socks... I think thats it! All I have left to buy are a few minor homebirth supplies.

Remember too, clothes are soooo easy to come by. If you have a shower, you'll get more than you need. Even if you don't, used baby clothes aren't really "used" (babies grow out of them before they can wear them out) there will be a ton of spring and summer yard sales to hit, and there are always consignment shops.

My problem is people buying stuff that we would never use, like bottles and pacifiers!

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The first one is very stressful, and like everyone else has said - you have you, you have your breasts, and that is really what you need. From your location, I'm guessing that early June is goin to be pretty warm. I'd make sure you have some onesies and/or kimono shirts, diapers (if you are doing disposibles, I wouldn't go hog-wild on newborn sized as they grow out of those very quickly - if you are doing cloth ( ), then some infant prefolds, some covers, maybe some Kissaluv size 0's (they fit for so long). I'd invest in a nice sling, and wait on the rest. The only shoes a baby should wear are soft "crib shoes" like already mentioned - anything else aren't good for their feet. I also second (third?) the recommendation about researching about co-sleeping - we don't even have a crib in the house. I do plan on setting up the pack&play (about the only piece of baby furniture I think we own) with the basinette portion in it, but is only for times when the baby is napping and I need to lay her/him down. Ds#2 slept most the time in the sling while I played with ds#1. But definitely, most of what mainstream comericialism would have you believe that you "need" really doesn't get used - and even the stuff you think you will use (say a swing or high chair or such) can be purchased a month or more after the baby is born. Just take one small step at a time - write down what you think you need, research/ask here how useful said item really is, and then decide whether or not to purchase it. It will all work out!

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I haven't really done anything specifically for this baby yet. Okay I did get the bin of newborn diapers out and sorted through them quickly. I established that I am going to need a few more since I sold off some. Other than that... not much but some brainstorming in my head. Oh I did order replacement sets of wool breast pads since DH's "goop" ruined : my other 2 pairs.

The bassinet is still next to my side of the bed... it is currently filled with all the pillows from our bed though. Guess I should stop putting them there and maybe wash and put the sheets/blankets on it.

I did recently see the Miracle Blanket that I used with Aidan (I think its mixed in with a few of my nursing shirts that are in a bin in my closet.

DH is "supposedly" moving his stuff out of his office/4th bedroom and I'm going to be setting up the baby's stuff i.e. clothes, cloth diapers and such up in there soon. But she'll still be sleeping in our bedroom for a while so I'm not totally rushed yet.

I'm sure once I'm closer to my due date I'll get the fire under me. Right now I've been concentrating on getting stuff together for the yard sale on Saturday, finished up with the birthday parties two weekends ago, and getting the house situated to host playgroup in 1.5 weeks. Oh and for the past day I've been ripping our CD collection onto the computer so I can sell off a ton of the CDs in the yard sale.

A friend recently asked me what I needed for Baby#4... the only thing I knew was a few more diapers and another Miracle Blanket (for when the other is in the wash!!). Really don't *need* any clothes (still have a ton from the previous 3 babies). I actually found that the best things for newborns are Zipper sleepers (love the HannaAndersson ones ) and sleepsack gowns. Snaps on sleepers are INSANE!!! Who's got enough brainpower at 2am to get the snaps to back matchup??? Zippers or elastic bottom sleepers are the only way to go. Who needs tons of "outfits"??? Most of the time you don't leave the house a whole lot and most newborns don't like having their clothes taken off. With the occasionally exception of a rare blowout or spitup, I got to where I only changed both boys "PJs" every night when I got them ready for "bedtime". They wore them all day long and were perfectly happy. I'd dress them in an outfit if we went out but otherwise... sleepers at the way to go. Since we live in Texas and deal with a lot of A/C (DH likes to keep the house cool) I always dress the kids warmly. If you don't have chilly issues... then definitely go with the Kimono t-shirts. I personally hate onesies because we use cloth diapers and most of the time they can cause wicking or compression wetness.

Oh the EarthMama Angel Baby stuff is AWESOME! I used it with Aidan and its great. I need to check if I'll need more of anything but I'm pretty sure I've still got enough.
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Oh the EarthMama Angel Baby stuff is AWESOME! I used it with Aidan and its great. I need to check if I'll need more of anything but I'm pretty sure I've still got enough.
That is so awesome to know! Last time PP recovery was harder than the birth itself, I really wanted to do something to make myself more comfortable and this stuff sounded wonderful. Like a spa in a box for my bum side

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I'm freaking out a bit too!! DH has been through the newborn thing twice before, but I never have, so we're moving at my "pace" in preparing for this baby.

Another option, if you're worried about getting furniture, is to check your local Freecycle website. It's a Yahoo! group that does exactly what it sounds like...a bunch of people get on there and post things they want/need to get rid of, and you go pick it up, free of charge. We've found some great stuff that way (most recently a piano we're going to pick up this weekend....I can't wait!!).

The only reason I'm not completely spazzing out is because all of our furniture is hand-me downs, and thankfully, was delivered by my parents last weekend. We're using the crib my brother slept in (he's 20 now) and the cradle my grandfather built when my grandmother was expecting my dad. Plus, my grandfather made rocking chairs for me and each of my siblings, so we've got that, and an old dresser my parents had laying around in the basement, that my mom is going to refinish and paint to match the bedding.

Don't worry though, I'm freaking out about EVERY OTHER ASPECT OF A NEWBORN!!

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I haven't done anything to prepare yet, either, but I don't feel that nervous about it. Maybe because I remember all the preparation we did for the first one really wasn't necessary at ALL! I mean, we painted, got a crib, got lots of clothes, etc., and really he was just attached to me for about 3 months, day and night, so none of the prep was really important. Maybe just mentally important for me.

I have, like, NO girl clothes yet. Well, I did buy a little pink gown, and my mom bought two onesies, but that's it. I don't think I'll have a shower this time, so I'm going to go through DS's stuff and see what things totally shout BOY, pack those away, and put her in the rest.

OH, the one thing I've thought about buying is a bedside rocking bassinette. Anyone ever use one of those? I remember wanting to put DS down in *some* thing close to the bed sometimes, while I tried to sleep a few hours without him ON me, but not the crib because it seemed to big and empty. I ended up using his bouncy seat sometimes, but that seemed not quite right. I don't think we can afford a co-sleeper, but I've seen those small rocking basinettes for not very much $.

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we dont have baby furniture yet either, heck we also have to buy our daughter a twin bed and matress and a new crib for Ryker. I want his crib set up in the room he will share with Alex before hes born. even though he will stay in the basinett in our room for like the 1st few months. *we need to bring down thats being stored at fils house*


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OH, the one thing I've thought about buying is a bedside rocking bassinette. Anyone ever use one of those? I remember wanting to put DS down in *some* thing close to the bed sometimes, while I tried to sleep a few hours without him ON me, but not the crib because it seemed to big and empty. I ended up using his bouncy seat sometimes, but that seemed not quite right. I don't think we can afford a co-sleeper, but I've seen those small rocking basinettes for not very much $.

Samantha -- What's a Miracle Blanket?
I don't have a rocking bassinet but I do have my (okay & my brother's ) old wicker bassinet that all three of mine slept in for a long time. Tori slept in it until 9 months, Jack 4 months and Aidan 10 months.

Here's a picture of the last time Aidan took a nap in it... I put him in the PackNplay after that. ;lol

http://www.dnshunter.net/sam/gallery...d=06_20_05_088

Okay the Miracle Blanket is the most amazing swaddling blanket. Aidan used his for a long time. I fully swaddled him until about 3+ months and then would leave his left arm out when he discovered his two middle fingers had the most amazing "drugging" effect. It also made nursing so much easier since I didn't have to fight flailing claws and pinching fingers. It really helped to settle Aidan, I think we used it for about 8 months with him at night. He really liked being swaddled, sometime I sooo didn't get with Tori. She was definitely a baby that should have been swaddled longer than the couple of weeks we did. Hindsight now.

http://www.miracleblanket.com/

I didn't get it until Aidan was about 3 weeks old... no more struggling with too short of blankets!! I think I paid about $24 for it off eBay. Sometime you can get lucky and find them at consignment shops, a friend saw one for about $20 brand new a week ago, I need to get my mom to snag it for me.
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