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#1 of 15 Old 05-25-2006, 12:33 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I have days where it really hasn't set in that I am going to have another baby. Maybe it's because I'm so busy with the other 2! It's all becoming so real. Ok I'm a dork
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No, I'm totally with you. I haven't finished the nursery, packed my bag or written my birth plan. I'm 36 weeks today and I feel like it's just starting to sink in that we're actually going to have another person in our lives soon. What did I think was going on all this time???

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Make that two. I feel the same way sometimes. I'll wake up in the morning and look at my belly and say "Oh my God I really am pregnant."

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Make that two. I feel the same way sometimes. I'll wake up in the morning and look at my belly and say "Oh my God I really am pregnant."
Yes, I do that too.
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I feel that way when I feel him kick and move around. It really dawns on me: there's a real baby in there!

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Oh I'm completely in denial. Virtually nothing is done, the house is a wreck, I haven't gone to get the bassinette from my moms house, I just washed up a couple of clothes last night... I think it's much different with the 2nd (3rd etc...) than with the first. I'm so busy with DS1 that I hardly have time or energy to even think about the fact that I'm ridiculously pregnant!
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I'm in total denial. I made a list last night (after my water broke) of reasons why I cannot be in early labor. It was all stuff I planned to do this week.
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I'm not in denial. I'm suddenly realizing just how close I am to having this baby and feel like there's still a bunch to do. I'm finding myself saying, "Just stay in a couple more weeks baby!"
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Totally. Just yesterday I looked at DH and said "oh my God. In a month or less we will have ANOTHER baby here." We both looked at each other completely shocked--as if we hadn't noticed the HUGE belly until just now. Its just oddly difficult to make the connection between pregnancy coming to a close and a new HUMAN BEING in our lives. Very trippy.

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It isn't so much that I'm in denial, it's that this experience is totally surreal at this point. Like I know what's going on and what needs to be done, but it doesn't really connect that I'm going to have a baby... Does that make sense?

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I keep having flashes of ... "OMG, I am going to be giving BIRTH soon ... and we are going to have another person in our family!" Maybe it is because my two boys keep me so busy, but sometimes I just kind of forget about being pregnant (not sure how that works at 39 weeks with a big belly). I'm excited about it all, and it sure will be nice to be on the other side of giving birth , but yea, every now and then it's like, "No, this really isn't happening ... really, we're having a baby?!"

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Make that two. I feel the same way sometimes. I'll wake up in the morning and look at my belly and say "Oh my God I really am pregnant."

Mama to Alexis 8/1/03 and expecting baby Dylan 6/22/06

I still have the the in the drawer next to my bed that I look at and just shake my head.

I honestly haven't bonded with this baby at all. I don't have the urge to hold him or anything, I just don't want to be pregnant anymore...I am really praying that it kicks in when he is boen....

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I am totally excited about having this baby but it freaks me out that I am going to be responsible for another life. I mean I am not totally sure I know what I am doing. I use to think I could care for a kid but now I am not to sure. I have always wanted a baby but I get fleeting thoughts of "No this isnt right its all a dream, I am going to wake up when I go into labor". I am also having very selfish feelings, I dont want my MIL around my baby at all and it makes me want to keep him safe inside me forever, or until we can get her to move somewhere else. I am not ready to have him because I am not ready to share him with her. I know or at least I think I should feel terrible about this but if you knew this woman I think you would feel the same way.
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popping in from to July to say, total denial here!

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I also feel like I haven't bonded much with this baby. It still seems too overwhelming and I am guilty about not going to be able to have that one on one time with my daughter like I do now.

Although once the baby is born I'm sure I'll just be in love with baby too.

Mama to Alexis 8/1/03 and expecting baby Dylan 6/22/06
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