We got a cockapoo 4 years ago when DS was 7 and an only child. We did not have any plans to expand our family. He was great, well-mannered, socialized, etc.
Now we have a 2.5 yo DD and twin 1 yo DSs. The dog steals their food, chews up their toys, and growls/snaps at them. If we put him outside or in the front room to seperate him from the little ones, he bark incessently. When the nanny is here, he barks and tries to bite her. He absolutely will not obey her. He ends up in his kennel while she is here, but he barks so much that he wakes the babies up.
I work fulltime, DH works fulltime and is in school fulltime so neither of us has much time or energy. What little energy I have goes to taking care of the babies, doing laundry, cooking meals, and coping with very little sleep. DH is simply not here very often.
I know he needs time and attention and some retraining, but I just don't know how to take the time. Spending time with him would mean taking time away from the kids. I am considering finding him a new home, but I feel guilty about that. I never planned to have more kids or I might not have chosen to get him in the first place.
I just feel sad. He is a good, loving dog and he deserves better.