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#1 of 6 Old 11-08-2010, 12:11 PM - Thread Starter
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We have 2 cats and a dog. One of our cats is the cause of a lot of stress in our lives. She's the sweetest cat to people, but she's downright aggressive and nasty to the other cat and dog. We've had her for 7 years and have put up with it, thinking that she'd mellow out as she gets older. She hasn't mellowed one bit.

We have the opportunity to give her a new home. A new family, where she'd be the only pet, wants to take her. I know it could be a better situation for everyone involved, but my heart is broken. I feel so guilty.

Is it the right thing to do??
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I think you should do it. I know you'll be sad, but she's not happy in the current situation and neither are you.

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I think you should do it, too. We had a dog that we had to out down about a year ago. We tried so many things over the years, but we were just outing off what was right for everyone. It will be a year in a couple weeks, and I still miss him and sometimes I cry a little, but a painful as it is to say it, our lives are much less stressful. Your cat will be going to a loving home, which sounds like a wonderful solution.

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I'll be honest, i'm against getting rid of pets in all but extreme situations, but certainly, if you have a home picked out which could be a better place for her, i see no reason not to try it out. I don't think you should feel guilty about making life better for you cat.
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 I would give it a try with the promise of taking the cat back if THEY want to get rid of her.In the least you can give her one room closed off with food/litter.Might not  work out either,but worth a try.Hopefully the new home will work out!

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In case anyone was wondering, she went to her new home last Friday. She is adjusting to her new surroundings and is already being affectionate to her new people. She has a little girl who is sooo happy to have her and loves her already! Plus, the mom works with my DH, so we will be able to keep in contact. They know that if it doesn't work out for any reason, we will gladly take her back. But so far, it seems like an ideal situation.

It's definitely more peaceful over here--our other pets seem as if a weight has been lifted off of their shoulders. 

I feel sad about it and I miss her terribly, but deep down, I'm pretty certain it was the right thing to do.

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