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#1 of 3 Old 04-10-2012, 12:16 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I have an 8 month old baby, my cats were house cats until the day we brought my baby home from the hospital, I could not stand them anywhere near me. They had the run of the house but as the days went on I slowly closed doors to room ending up with them just in the large kitchen/diner. They meowed constantly in or out the house, were always hungry even thou they were fed often, and they just irritated me so much. I didn't like my husband touching them as I saw them as dirty and would make him wash his hands all the time after stroking them. I discussed rehoming them last month as wanted them to go to a nice home where they would get the love and attention they deserved! This was in discussion. Then 2 weeks ago whilst we were on vacation one of our cats passed away, was hit by a car, I was very upset and felt guilty greensad.gif now my other cat is lost without his best friend and I feel so sorry for him but he still irritates me soooo much, and as he is now on his own my husband has suggested we rehome him to a loving family where he can have lots of attention. In my head that's what I want but when I look into this option it doesn't feel 100% right.

I never thought I would feel like this as they were my babies and I adored them! How can my feelings change so much..... I guess my question is will my feelings change towards Charlie the cat? Will I ever like/love him again?

Has anyone ever experienced anything like this?
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Will you ever like him again? Based on my experience and many similar experiences I have read about this very topic: yes, you will.

 

My cats were my babies too, and I could not stand them when DD was born. How long? Oh, 2 or 3 years. It didn't go away all at once but it got better and better and now they are back to having my full care and regard.


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Has anyone ever experienced anything like this?



More people than are willing to admit it!  Trust me.

 

I remember when one of my closest friends "turned" on her fur baby after her first child was born.  Seriously, they were over the top about that dog and she was begging her husband to rehome it within weeks.  I gave her such a hard time about it (major guilt trip) and she said to me that one day I would understand.

 

And I sort of did, not to the same extent but I understood that pets get a lower position in the family (as they should) after a human baby comes into the picture.  It is a one of those dirty little secrets no one talks about.

 

If you could rehome to a home where kitty would be more loved than he is now, that would probably be a good thing and you don't need to feel guilty about it.  I would be super careful about making sure he has a great family to go to.

 

coming back to add - when your child is old enough to love and enjoy kitty, it will (probably) melt your heart to see the two of them together.


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