I really need some advice about my dog... this is kind of long, but if you have any experience with dogs, please help me...
Let me start by saying I love animal, but have never dealt with a problem like this before. I have two dogs, Casper, who is pretty good, a little sneaky, but listens, and Marley, a black lab mix who is driving me crazy. They are both about 12 years old, in pretty good health, they act and look much younger.
I don't even know where to start. I was gone most the day, I got home and threw the ball for Marley (he's addicted to the ball) a few times and went inside. I let him out a few times to pee in the coarse of the next two hours or so. The second time, right after I let him in (he was barking at the door to come in) he snuck into the other room and pooped in our house! I had just let him out. I was so mad, I'm pregnant right now and the smell of the pooh makes me throw up. I locked him on the side yard where he barked and barked. It was almost 10pm and I don't want to make the neighbors mad, but what am I supposed to do?? This pooping in the house thing just started about two weeks ago, and usually right after he has been outside and barks to come in. He has done it several times, and he has even come in and peed!!!!
We use to keep the dogs inside when we left. We have a very large yard, but no fence (we're working on it, but its going to take a while), so we built a smaller fenced area to keep them outside. After a while of staying inside, Marley learned how to open the fridge and freezer and eat everything he could reach. Of coarse anything on the counter and cupboards was fair game to him too. We bunggie corded the fridge, and left nothing within reach. It didn't take long before he figured out how to move the bunggie cord up enough (between the fridge and freezer door) to get in it again. He likes to spread everything out, through out the kitchen and living room. We also can't have a trash in the house because he will get into it and spread it everywhere any chance he gets.
Marley was adopted by my husband when Marley was 1yo. For the first couple years he was a wild hippie guard dog at a citrus and avocado orchard where my husband worked. A few years later I came into the picture. Marley sometimes listens to my dh, but doesn't listen much to me.
I know he hates it when we leave him home, I know he wants to go to the beach everyday and play ball. I know he wants more attention from my dh. My husband works a lot, and is gone at least 12 hours a day, 5 days a week. I am working 4 days a week right now. I know he is just a dog, he doesn't understand why we leave. But he is driving me mad! I am so frustrated! He continued to bark tonight, so I brought him inside and locked him in a different room, he hates that. Right now he is trying to knock down the door that divides the room (he's done it before). Am I doing the right thing?? I feel so bad. I feel like I hate him. I have never hated an animal before. He makes me so mad. I don't want to yell, I have a baby inside of me. Am I a horrible person for feeling this way??? I feel so guilty and I'm tired of it. I very emotional right now and I can't stop crying. I know, he's a dog, we are not the best doggie parents. We don't give them as much as they need. I throw balls in our yard for them everyday, but I only walk them with dh. Marley barks at people and freaks out when he sees another dog. If you have any advice or have experienced anything similar I would love to here your thoughts. Please don't judge me because I said I feel like I hate him. It is something I would never say out load, and something I can't tell dh. I really do love animals, I have been vegetarian for 12 years, I know I'm being defensive, but it sounds so bad. Can you help???
: #1 edd 10/29/05