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Originally Posted by shannon0218
Come on guys, threads are getting closed because of the backbiting. Who is helped by this--the pet? NO. The owner? NO. The cause? NO
Believe me, I understand the frustration involved in rescue work and in working with dogs and harder still, working with humans who choose to bring them into their family.
When did venting become such a bad thing?? Would a poster also be chastised if they posted that they had no idea how hard it was going to be to parent a 2 yr old??
Here's the facts:
Nobody knows until they are doing it how hard it will be (hell, I thought it would be SIMPLE running my home business with a child--I had no idea I'd NEVER be able to take my eyes off her!)
When you are post partum, different things bother you--things you never thought would--Dog hair on the floor drove me NUTS!! I mean so much so that I seriously considered taking a bic razor to both dogs and the cat. Sure, they also lost hair before the baby--it just didn't bother me then--and I had more time to clean it up!
Pets with a young baby are hard work--and you know what--nobody tells you that before hand--afterall, every perfect family has 2 kids and a golden retreiver! Ain't nothing perfect about Golden fur with a baby!!
Last but not least.....we're all allowed to have tough days!!! My God, if everyone was so perfect and never had a bad dog or bad kid day--how boring would life be??? (that and I'd be out of work!)
I guess, what I'm trying to express here is that we need to start treating our fellow pet owners with some compassion, some understanding--you know--treat them like your dog treats you. Especially from those of us who are professionals in the field, lets try to guide with a gentle approach--you'll train both dogs and humans quicker with some gentle praise and understanding than you will with a kick or a smack. Recently there have been 3 separate mama's who came to vent, or let off steam or express that it's harder than they thought or mention a problem that they didn't think was fixable, all three of them had their asses handed to them and their hands slapped for being bad pet owners--this is not going to encourage or help them do the right thing!! All three of the ones I'm speaking of, I chatted with privately and you know what--they're doing better, they needed some help and some understanding, but by being bashed, all they got was defensive.
So yeah, I understand how frustrating it is. I understand that knee jerk reaction to get mad, but before getting mad, why don't we try giving the benefit of the doubt--if after some questions and the offering of possible SOLUTIONS they're still saying things like--nope he's got to go, I saw some hair on the floor again this morning and I'm just not willing to live this way!! Then, get mad, after some gentle understanding has proven not to work. I have a feeling though that at least 8 out of 10 times, a little guidance will do far more to better the cause--which is happy homes for all pets.
So, can we try? Can we assume the best of people until they show us their worst? Can we all work together? Can we try a little tenderness? (I feel a song coming on...)
|I guess, what I'm trying to express here is that we need to start treating our fellow pet owners with some compassion, some understanding--you know--treat them like your dog treats you.|
|I have also seen this passion overcome a person in an unbalanced way. I've seen people who are so frustrated and overwhelmed and burnt out that they snap at anyone who even speaks negatively about an animal.|
|I have also seen this passion overcome a person in an unbalanced way. I've seen people who are so frustrated and overwhelmed and burnt out that they snap at anyone who even speaks negatively about an animal. Rescue work is hard. A Google search on "animal shelter burnout" yields many search results: http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&...shelter+burnout
I watched it happen to a friend of mine. Many many years of shelter and rescue work wore her down. She was unpleasant at best when the subject of pet ownership came up. She has had a career change to veterinary technology and is on the end of saving animals. It has brought her around to the loving tolerant person I used to know!
Single mom to Rain (1/93) , grad student, and world traveler
Originally Posted by PuppyFluffer
Dar, that is a good idea. Would you members here like to contribute to crafting the wording? Tell me what is valuable about pet ownershhip, what ideals you'd like to see upheld in a "guideline" sticky!
Single mom to Rain (1/93) , grad student, and world traveler
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