Hey, thanks for the book recommendation. I'm always looking for new things to read, something to do while nursing DB...
Can I tell you, the suggestions have been so good, we've already noticed a difference. They both sit before anything. They used to come in from outside and tear
around the house, freaking out, jumping, etc. Now they sit. I talk to them calmly, but do the AH! thing if they move. Once they've settled, they get pets and nice words. It really has made that transition better. The scootching still happens, but she definitely is checked by that AH!, and she'll stop and move back (I confess, I doubted it would work!). In fact, I was sitting next to the baby on the ground and she was across the room - I called her over to give her some good attention, as we'd been v. vigilant about keeping her off of us, and she stopped about a foot and a half from us and laid down! !!! That's a first. So, it's exciting that this is working, and exciting that Zoe is such a smart girl that she's already getting it. Oh, and for some reason I missed your post, Laurel, but that's interesting about the banishment down the hall - I will try that next time instead of just herding everybody outside.
We do use baby gates and like them, and the dogs don't seem to mind, either. Now that I am better informed about BC personality traits, I feel a lot less guilty - Zoe is very submissive, and just looks kinda sad, and I felt like an a-hole pushing her away. Now I realize that she's just relentless and it's her thing! One good thing about putting this focus on the issue is that I'm really taking extra time and effort to give her good attention when we're inside. As you said, MBTR, the dogs (and DH
) are down on the attention meter since my ever-fascinating DB came along, and it's an adjustment. I do feel like it's good to right that balance a bit, esp. now as the baby is becoming a little more independent (ie able to sit up & move around on his own).
So - thank you all so much. I can't tell you how much better I feel about this situation, and I think our dogs will feel better as well. I'm sure that it's going to take a bit, but I've got your suggestions saved on email, so I can come back to them if I feel we're slipping.