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#1 of 4 Old 08-03-2007, 01:54 PM - Thread Starter
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Well she's almost 3yrs (aug. 12th, yikes, where'd my baby go), but i wrote a few days ago that my dog died, and i'd like to mention i got unbelievable support, THANK YOU! But now i have a new problem, my dd always asks where he is, i've tried to tell her but she doesn't understand, we haven't talked had to her about death yet cuz we thought she was too young, My dad said to tell her he went to live with someone else, but i don't want to do that, in fact several people told me something similar to that, Do you think i should? I'm really not crazy about the idea but i need to explain something to her.
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I told my son that our dog was running free with other dogs in this special dog place where they had so much fun! I basically described doggie heaven. I didn't feel like it was lying because I believe its true in a sense. He was really happy when I explained it all to him.

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Can you tell her story of the rainbow bridge? Explain that when animals get very old or very sick, they get to go to rainbow bridge where they can be young and healthy again.

When she keeps asking, just keep reminding her. Eventually as she gets older, she'll understand, but maybe a story like that will help her visualize somewhere "concrete" that your pup has gone that not a lie (well, depending on your beliefs of course).

Google the rainbow bridge story to read to her. Condolences on the loss of your dog.

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They don't get it at all, it's just that age. I know because when one of my cats passed my DD was at that age and she just "didn't get it" at all. In fact, they kept on asking, for maybe about 2 weeks. I told them simply that he had died and wouldn't be with us anymore. It was the finality that they didn't seem to grasp.

The really sad thing is, they actually FORGOT the cat. Sigh. I have pictures, and they would ask...who is that cat? I would tell them, but they wouldn't remember, which is honestly harder on me than them. I wish they remembered!

Perpetually breastfeeding or pregnant ENFP mom to a lot of kids...wife to a midwestern nice in tropical cats and homebirths rock!

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