We recently rescued a beautiful one year old Golden Retriever from going to the pound. He is a total lover. Wonderful dog all around. Great with the kids, cats, other dogs, knows all basic commands, etc. My issue is what to do about co-sleeping?
We have a large sized bed that he can sleep on (and he keeps sneaking up there). However, he wants to sleep right between us alongside my 22 mo ds and my almost 4 yo dd. Both of them are not continuously with us at night as they usually go to sleep in their beds, but wander in around midnight.
I'm not worried about the room, we can find a way to do anything, but I am worried about him rolling over on one of the kids. He is HUGE. Haven't weighed him yet as the vets have been closed but I would guesstimate around 90 lbs. Very overweight, poor thing. However, it is pretty clear that he really wants to be up there with us, and I want to bond with him as much as possible. WWYD? Or what do you do with co-sleeping and pets?
With all the posts I've seen, here and other places, of co-sleeping dog issues I would say that it really isn't 'bonding' as much as we humans attribute to it. I think proper dog bonding would better occur during daily awake interactions like walks and a dog learning the manners expected of them.
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Good luck! And thanks for rescuing this guy. Sounds like he's found a good family!
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We love him so much already. Perfect dog for us.....
It has never been an issue with us. Perhaps just try to train your dog to sleep on the other side of you by the edge of the bed instead of between you all.
Anyhoo... cosleeping with everyone works out great in my house. We're always very careful to watch for dominance issues, though. Like, super careful. Like, if he looks at someone the wrong way, we take action :
We cared for my SIL's dog for a while and he wasn't allowed anywhere NEAR our bed, because of his dominance issues.
As long as everything is working in harmony, cosleeping with pets is awesome. I love having Baxter on my feet :
My dogs often sleep on the bed, but they don't even try to get to the head of the bed. They know they're not allowed up past my feet (and one of them has never even tried--she's naturally very submissive and would be appalled at the thought of trying to get too close to me at night). They're also small enough that they're not dangerous. The Danes, with the exception of Lucy-the-most-perfect-dog-who-has-ever-lived, were never allowed on the bed.
He has already learned not to get on the bed. We only had that one night of him trying to get up and now he stays happily on his bed at the foot of our bed.
I think he was trying to establish dominance. He isn't aggressive in any way, but I see little things he tries to do to see where he is in our "pack". So far, luckily, he is learning he is on the bottom. He defers to all of the people in our home (including our two littlest) and our cats.
Very smart dog. I wasn't going to try to teach recall until he settled in a bit, but I think I'm going to go out with him today and start the process.