My friend M is a dog person. Dogs like him, he likes dogs. He's calm and confident and somewhat aloof. He was our housemate for several years. We're still very close.
About our dog: Her name is Elly. She's a 3yo german shepherd from a gsd rescue. She's well mannered and polite. She knows basic obedience commands and she stands for grooming--when I trimmed her nails she even handed me her feet. I don't know how she fell into hard times, but I'm glad she's here with us now. We've had her for 3wks.
We also have Koda, a 3yo male lab/shep. He's solid, no issues at all.
So, M came to visit. The kids were in bed, everything was calm and quiet and good. She greeted him, he sat down, got up to get a beer, sat back down, petted the dogs, normal moving around the house just being at home stuff. We were all happy and relaxed.
The baby woke up and I brought him to the rocking chair to nurse him back to sleep. We were talking politics, and it had gotten a little heated, but we're accustomed to disagreeing with each other, no big deal. The conversation moved on, and so we're sitting there, sleeping baby on my lap, and M gets up to leave. Koda followed him over to the door. Elly got up and came to me. I pushed her away b/c I was holding the baby (she's usually pretty good about avoiding him,) but rather than go to M or go lay down as I expected, she took a stance between M and me and growled at him.
I told her no, she quit, he left, that was that.
A couple of days later another friend came to visit. He's loud and doesn't have good dog manners, and they have a 4yo...so my intention was to let the dogs say hi, and then put them in their crates. I don't let dogs rush the door.
So Koda was in down stay, and I had Elly's collar. They came in, the people greeted, I let the dogs up, the dogs greeted. Elly sniffed, he petted her and talked to her, she came around and sniffed his wife, she petted her, Elly went back to the man, lowered her ears and growled when he extended his hand the second time. I corrected her (I said no and body checked her (my legs, her shoulders) she stopped, sat down and wagged her tail. I put her in her crate as planned, no hard feelings.
I'm wondering what is going on, and what I should do next. I think I'm doing the right thing, but I need reassurance. I also want to know if I'm totally off!
Any insight is so appreciated!
mom to dd (11) and dd (9) and ds (3) and (x2)