I don't think we should be saying parents are abusive if their child is not the weight we think they should be. I was on a lot of medicine as a child and had horrible problems with my weight. My mother cut my calories way back, made me ride my bike two miles each way to school, and brought me on daily walks and it drove my self esteem into the trash and I started sneaking food at school because I was hungry. I think that you can have abuse at each extreme and that it is more helpful to educate people about how to make food and lifestyle choices that are healthy, inexpensive, and easy to prepare. I also don't think that you can just decide someone is unhealthy based on their weight. You need to know about lifestyle as well, there are many people who eat copious amounts of junk, exercise rarely, and look like a stick and there are many people who rarely eat junk, exercise a lot, and look like a beach ball but the exercise and diet combine to create health.