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View Poll Results: Which deadly sin most affects your parenting?
Avarice (greed for money) 1 0.54%
Gluttony (greed for food and/or drink) 8 4.32%
Wrath 45 24.32%
Pride 15 8.11%
Sloth 109 58.92%
Lechery 0 0%
Envy 7 3.78%
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Old 01-12-2009, 10:21 PM - Thread Starter
 
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So, which of the seven deadly sins is the most likely to affect your parenting?

For me, it's most definitely sloth. I see other mothers doing wonderful arts and crafts with their children, or taking them out and about, and I feel guilty because I just can't (or won't) work up the energy.

And then there's the housework . . .
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Ok, gotta say, you come up with the best polls, Murihiku.

I think a lot of sloth is actually just exhaustion, maybe especially in the moms of small babies?

The character trait or deadly sin or whatever that I most wish as a parent that I could strike from that list is wrath. Like Alcott's Marmee, I have a temper and struggle with it, though I think I'm a lot happier now as a person and as a parent than I used to be.

I grew up with a parent who could be sarcastic and even verbally abusive when angry, and struggle to eradicate the imprint of that example from my life as a parent so that it will not travel into another generation.

Why is it that of all the people in the world, we are most likely to lose our patience with our own children?
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Envy! I am so jealous of people who sleep. I'm like a junkie... when can I get my next fix of sleep? :yawning:

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Hmmm, sloth or wrath...or maybe gluttony. It's my time, darn it, *my* time, leave me alone and go play!
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Sloth, followed closely by pride. I tend to get a bit judgemental and consider myself better than others when it comes to parenting.
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Wrath. I often feel frustrated and angry. I don't think I play with DD enough as a result.
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Sloth, definitely, followed by greed. I'm a work in progress.

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Wrath-
I'm spending this next year with the only priority being to keep my temper.
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Awesome thread!

For me it's sloth, followed closely by gluttony. Being a SAHM has made me far too likely to veg with my laptop on my lap while my toddler plays nicely with his toys. I really should play with him more and get outside with him more.

And I eat way to many treats. Chocolate is my biggest weakness.

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Sloth & wrath, but sloth is definitely moreso. A lot of my anger problems come from having to clean up/fix stuff the kids have been told repeatedly not to do...things that involve making more work for me.

I'm working on it.

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I chose pride. Actually, dh chose pride for me, lol. Pride because I am maybe a bit too thrilled with my dc's simplest accomplishments

I also think pride must fit, because I don't think the others fit me....so I probably view myself a bit more highly than reality would warrant, too
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Definitely sloth. I just feel so drained sometimes and really, my life isn't that hard. I need to stick my fingers into a light socket or something. *g* I do have a temper, but it rarely comes out for the kids. I do often get angry too quickly with DH though and am working to amend that.

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Sloth, I would think. Then Wrath. Then Gluttony. The kids are complaining that mommy gets all of the good snacks in the house, b/c of the babies. I feel bad, but, dang it, I'm hungry!!!!

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sloth. then envy...
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I used to think I was lazy (slothful) until I got to a point in time when I wasn't purely exhausted all the itme-- and I found I was really diligent and on top of things, very organized and kept things so neat and clean-- yup, I'm just exhausted.

I put down Pride because that's what makes me so impatient with my kids and snap at them sometimes. It is said by some, traditionally, that Pride is the number one sin, and I do think false pride (there is a good kind of pride, I don't mean that kind) is the root cause of a lot of wrong/hurtful behavior. It's prideful for me to think that I'm in any position to be critical or judge other people-- especially my little children-- especially when they're acting totally normal for their age. Of course, that stems from exhaustion too, but if there wasn't pride there first, then even with exhaustion I wouldn't be so impatient and snapping.

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wrath no question. I am a yeller.

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Sloth, me too, me too.

I have to agree (to a certain degree) with lemurmommies... it's easy to just veg on the computer w/the babe around (though recently she's been REALLY possessive... any time I get on, she clambers around! Good motivation for me to stop, eh?)

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what an awesome poll!
where is the "All of the Above" choice?!
i had a very hard time choosing just one. which makes me feel like the Worst Mama Ever.:
we've been so broke lately that i picked envy, b/c i can't take the kids places to do stuff like i wish i could, and that makes me feel angry (wrath) and powerless, so i get bummed and lazy (sloth) .

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Sloth.

I have intermittent problems with losing my temper, but sometimes, that's also related to sloth. When I'm being lazy and having a cup of coffee and reading the paper, it makes me edgy.

I'm kind of a slug these days. I have aspirations to non-slugness one day, but I think it will come after this baby, as pregnancy seems to knock me out more every time...

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Which deadly sin most affects your parenting?
Avarice (greed for money)
Gluttony (greed for food and/or drink)
Wrath
Pride
Sloth
Lechery
Envy

ALL!

Avarice--- we're living check by check and we barely can go anywhere which makes it difficult to find something entertaining to do during cold weather.

Gluttony-- being pregnant with twins.. I feel greedy with food/drink because I'm always hungry..if there isn't enough food (due to $$) my stomach hurts, I would cry and get really angry.

Wrath-- when daughter's behaviors repeats more than once after asking her to stop, the frustration will turn into wrath then I'd start yelling.

Pride-- the more trouble (red) my daughter get in school, my pride hurts because it makes me feel like a failure.. a bad mother and I end up taking it out on her by yelling at her.

Sloth-- being pregnant and no job makes me feel very lazy and becomes bored then I become irritable and snaps at my daughter if she becomes demanding of my attention when I'm cooking dinner or try to put dishes away.

Lechery-- don't know what this mean but I won't be surprised that I'm also guilty of this part.

Envy-- of some of my friends who has $$ and gets to go somewhere with their kids.

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wrath, definitely. we still have set-backs, but i am working very hard to relearn how to parent.
after that, sloth. but i don't see that as a sin, that's just who i am!
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I was torn between sloth and envy.

But, I picked sloth.
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Sloth. I ought to be down on the floor playing more, I ought to be doing art projects and cooking projects, I ought not let ds watch tv....but I am lazy (or maybe just tired from life with our new baby dd). Funny poll!

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Wrath, probably. I get annoyed easily with simple things. Example.... If I want to take the kids sledding. I get annoyed with dd that she wants to put her coat on herself. ok, I let her try while I get the younger ones coat on. 3 seconds later she is throwing a fit saying she needs help NOW and can not wait until I put the boots on the baby. THen throws a fit saying she wants to do it herself. Same with getting in and out of the car, carseat, etc. I want to flip out and cancel the trip.
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i'd say wrath as well. i have a short fuse buti am working on it! i need to work harder though.

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I was going to say wrath but got to thinking that my wrath is a form of pride get angry because I want to look good on the outside and it makes me angry when my family doesn't do it my way (selfish and self-centered forms of pride). So for me it comes back to pride in the end.

I would second w/sloth but that may go back to pride in the end too.Because I get lazy when I can't do it or feel I am failing- pride again because I have to be perfect and look good on the outside because I compare my insides to your outsides.
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I voted sloth, but I promise to do better once this baby is born and I'm recovered and the weather gets nicer and..........

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definitely sloth, but I am working on it.

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I voted wrath although sloth comes in a close second.

I've always struggled with my temper, but never before in my life have I had to struggle with things that make me crazy numerous times a day. BC (before child) I might have had to struggle to keep my cool once or twice a month. Now I feel like I'm constantly trying not to lose it. Sometimes I fail and yell, then I feel awful.

But I'm pretty slothful too - I'd love to be more energetic, keep the house really clean, play with DD more, take her out to activities and stuff more, but I still feel like I'm just keeping my head above water. Doesn't help that she still wakes a gazillion times a night... :yawning:

I'm pretty safe from lechery (absolutely no libido!) and pride (usually feeling bad/guilty about something or other).

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Lechery-- don't know what this mean but I won't be surprised that I'm also guilty of this part.
Lechery means lust, so if you're ignoring your kids in order to surf internet porn sites, that would qualify. (I'm guessing you're not, and so you're innocent of this one!)
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