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Old 02-27-2009, 01:33 AM
 
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Wow- you are so courageous. You did the right thing. This family is in denial- they are not reacting rationally!
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Old 02-27-2009, 01:42 AM
 
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I would keep making CPS reports, anonymously.

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you did the right thing, and if the family had not been covering this all up the whole time, you wouldn't have had to do anything at all. I understand that the grandparents felt they could handle the situation on their own, but that guy NEEDED to be reported, investigated, and then dealt with accordingly. If he is innocent (which fleeing does not seem to indicate) then he has nothing to worry about.

big hugs to everyone who is trying to protect that little girl, but half-measures are not good enough!! sweeping it under the rug is NOT protecting her!!

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Just thought I would mention that if this is being monitored by one of family members of the little girl then it's really not going to be anonymous. Frankly, it shouldn't be anyway. They are in the wrong and Elephantine is only doing what any of us would do. I was just thinking that maybe this could cause her unnecessary stress by adding fuel to the fire so to speak.

I feel worried for you Elephantine. I hope you are doing okay.
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You did the right thing. I would continue making calls, too .
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it's a shame how doing the right thing seems to be so very unusual these days. hope you are doing alright, you are one very courageous mama.
(& obviously doing what's best for this poor baby.)
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yes. please keep reporting to CPS. I feel like they would take it more serious than the police.
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Prayers for you and that little girl. You are brave for doing what you did, and you can have a CLEAR conscience! The fact that the BF fled says it ALL to me, and although it seems bleak right now...I'm sure authorities have noticed (as well as the GF - she's gotta live with herself).

You did the ONLY right thing there was to do here, speak up for an innocent child who was being ignored.

If they are monitoring this, they should know that their denial has harmed the family more than you trying to heal it.
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I am sorry that the family is more worried about images than protecting an innocent girl. You did the right thing.
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I would report to CPS, they will take you more seriously.

You have not done ANYTHING wrong. You did not report names or locations. This family is SO wrong for trying to brush this under the rug, putting that incompentent Mother's feelings above this innocent little girl's wellbeing. It's sick, it's awful, and they need a full CPS investigation.

I'm just so outraged at the stupidity of this family!!! What on EARTH are they thinking??!

Regardless, YOU have done what any sane person would do. Don't feel bad, you are the only life line for this little girl, her only chance of getting help. Please muster up the strength and call CPS, they will listen to you. They will investigate. And it so badly needs to be done ... it's painfully obvious no one is going to protect this little girl without it.

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I would report to CPS, they will take you more seriously.

You have not done ANYTHING wrong. You did not report names or locations. This family is SO wrong for trying to brush this under the rug, putting that incompentent Mother's feelings above this innocent little girl's wellbeing. It's sick, it's awful, and they need a full CPS investigation.

I'm just so outraged at the stupidity of this family!!! What on EARTH are they thinking??!

Regardless, YOU have done what any sane person would do. Don't feel bad, you are the only life line for this little girl, her only chance of getting help. Please muster up the strength and call CPS, they will listen to you. They will investigate. And it so badly needs to be done ... it's painfully obvious no one is going to protect this little girl without it.
This. All of it. :
I'm also not a huge fan of CPS, but there are times when they really do help children. This is one of those times. Again, OP.. you have done absolutely nothing wrong whatsoever.

I didn't sleep much last night because I couldn't stop thinking about that poor little girl. It was the first thing that popped into my head this morning. My heart completely breaks for her. I was only 1.5 yrs older than her when my molestation began. And I still remember that first time like it was yesterday.

To this child's family.. What do you believe that sweet girl is being taught right now? I'll tell you what.. the same things that *I* was taught. "Why tell anyone that it's happening? What's the point? They don't care. It doesn't matter what is being is being done to me.". Eventually, the thought process will develop into "It's not MY body. It belongs to someone else.". If she is one of the lucky ones, she won't have lifelong self esteem issues, she won't turn to drugs, she won't allow men to treat her like the piece of garbage that she believes she is at the time, and she won't have lifelong trust issues.
This isn't about YOU. This isn't about trying to tear family and friends apart. This is about protecting something so very precious. The fact that the man fled speaks VOLUMES. Why can't you see that? No one is worth defending over a helpless child who has been hurt.

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To this child's family.. What do you believe that sweet girl is being taught right now? I'll tell you what.. the same things that *I* was taught. "Why tell anyone that it's happening? What's the point? They don't care. It doesn't matter what is being is being done to me.". Eventually, the thought process will develop into "It's not MY body. It belongs to someone else.". If she is one of the lucky ones, she won't have lifelong self esteem issues, she won't turn to drugs, she won't allow men to treat her like the piece of garbage that she believes she is at the time, and she won't have lifelong trust issues.
This isn't about YOU. This isn't about trying to tear family and friends apart. This is about protecting something so very precious. The fact that the man fled speaks VOLUMES. Why can't you see that? No one is worth defending over a helpless child who has been hurt.
I also want to add that she is going to forget about the rape. Her memories might fade or become repressed, but that feeling of being violated will be with her until she works it out. PLEASE, PLEASE get her some help.
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sorry if I shouldn't still be posting on this thread, and will be happy to remove this post if you want me to, but any update on this situation that you can share? I hope all is moving in a positive direction for that little girl, and has blown over for you...


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