I can also relate to what you are feeling. I was married to the man of my dreams and the father of my two beauties at the age of 19. I am a young momma of two. I had Madison 2 weeks after I turned the tender age of 18 (Sean was 19) and Olivia when I was 21. Although Madison was a "surprise" for us it was only "normal" to get the flack of being a young parent who graduated from High School 5 months pregnant. I had wonderful support from my family and friends, the only ppl who gave me the flack were strangers who thought they were know it alls. Of course their remarks hurt and I did take it to heart.
When Sean proposed to me, we were so excited (I just knew that he was my soul mate and that we were meant to be *hence* Madison) Sean was my first love, my first everything, we actually concieved Madison the frist time the both of us lost our virginity, anyways, it was the same situation our family and friends were so excited and happy for us and the ppl who frowened upon the idea were strangers
: and still it made me feel upset and torn.
I went to school when Madison turned 1, I took a Medical Assistant course and graduated with Honors. I got a well paying job immedialtey. After working for about 4 months Sean and I decided that we wanted to start ttc #2. Our families were very excited for us. We were blessed to get pregnant our first month of trying. Sean and I decided that after this baby was born I would stay at home with our children until we are done having babies and they are all old enough. This is a decision that we both strongly agreed on and would have it no other way.
I still do get the flack from ppl and all I do is sluff it off. I wake up in the morning feeling so blessed and so happy that I have my wonderful husband, my two precious daughters, and that I am a stay at home mom. Sure it hurts when I get the *oh you are so young* but I would have it NO other way. This is what I want in my life, and I couldn't be happier. Growing up I was always told that I was a "Born Momma" I knew that I wanted to have children, and when Madison came it was just pure bliss and I knew
that this was just the beginning of a very joyful, and blessed life. Sean and I feel very led that we were meant for eachother and that we were meant to have a lot of children, and we are going to do so, and we are both so excited about that.
So whenever I get those remarks I try to not let it bother me, I look at my husband and children and see how blessed and happy I am, and some stranger's rude comment isn't going to change that.
When asked if I feel like my young "party/do whatever you want" kind of life was wasted by wanting to start a family, I just giggle to myself and say absolutley not. Sean and I are going to still be quite young by the time our last child is moved out of the house (or old enough to take care of him/her self) We will have tons of time to travel and spend time together. I would have my life no other way, and I also think that society is starting to get married and start having families at younger ages also, it is going back to when our grandparents started having children (at young ages)
Well this reply turned into quite the novel
But I just want to let you know that you aren't alone, and to just ignore those "know it alls". You are a wonderful momma