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#61 of 67 Old 03-10-2009, 06:42 PM
 
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Well, it teaches men that they aren't good enough to look after our children, sometimes even their own, and disempowers them. It teaches our sons that sexual violence is anticipated, that sexual violence has power. It teaches our girls that sexual violence is to be anticipated, powerful, something to fear. And so the circle goes on.
It teaches young boys that they are inherently untrustworthy, potentially violent, dangerous, born evil. It teaches little girls that all men are inherently untrustworthy, potentially violent, dangerous, born evil. And maybe sometimes it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, because if a little boy absorbs the message for long enough, if he's going to be damned no matter how good and loving and safe he is, why shouldn't he earn his reputation?

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I wouldn't tell someone to ignore their instincts either, but it's a pretty good pointer that our "instincts" are pretty messed up when the mere sight of a father with his daughter sets off alarm bells.
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Perhaps this should be remembered in the future.

Perhaps it should also be considered why we jump to such outlandish ideas over something as innocent as a Daddy talking to a daughter.
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I'm glad everything is fine, but also a little confused. Are you saying the man that pulled her out of the classroom was her father? Did I read your post wrong about him being the director or did I miss a post or something? Just trying to get clarification b/c maybe I got really confused somewhere along the way.
Totally clear now.
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I found this thread interesting. Of course, I came in late and skipped it all to find the outcome before reading everything (kinda feels like cheating!).

I do think we have developed a parinoia in our sociaty against men and little girls. It is kinda sad too. (Not that it is totally undeserved.) And many times I think people just don't MYOB enough.

But opinion is weighed with having the experience of a BIG (6ft 4in), hairy, gruff looking DH and four little daughters over the years. Granted, now they are grown up, but at a point they were little. And I know he got some looks, and some thoughts, especially when one of them had a bad day and was kicking or screaming, or perhaps even hurt.



I get so angry when I think of men being labled as "potential preditors" just because of their size and gender.

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So I checked. It was her father.
wow never in a million years would i have thought of that.

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Well, it teaches men that they aren't good enough to look after our children, sometimes even their own, and disempowers them. It teaches our sons that sexual violence is anticipated, that sexual violence has power. It teaches our girls that sexual violence is to be anticipated, powerful, something to fear. And so the circle goes on.

Thank you for saying all that.

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