So if you figure anything out, let me know.
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I think bees like bright colors so I would just have your LO wear more netrual colors or light pastels.......
I think it's awesome that you swallow your own fears to help keep her calm. I hate bees and am terrified of them (to an irrational extent) and hope to prevent my DS from sharing my stupid panic whenever I see a flying stinging creature.
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When a stupid man is doing something he is ashamed of, he always declares that it is his duty. --George Bernard Shaw
I spent recess in the library through elementary school because of bees. I got stung at recess once & had to go to the hospital. It was nice being in the library, but sometimes I would watch the other kids playing which made me a little sad. Now I also have to carry an Epi-Pen. Those things are scary looking. It is good to know I have one in case I do get stung, but that thing might even be scarier than the sting!
I hope you find a way to help her. I'm trying to avoid my boys picking up on my fear, but it's hard for me to hide it.
buy a book about bees- or find info online
teach her about them, thier habits, why they sting, or dont sting, what they like, how they raise thiere babies, where they live, how they are important to the environment.
they are not a monster they are a tiny creature who lives together in a community with friends, mothers, babies, ect.
maybe if she understands them she can let go of osme of her fear.
move the flowers to a place she doesnt go.
and most of all be a good exsample- dont show fear of bee, tell her they are perfectly harmless and not at all interested in her. if they land on you so what? wait and they will fly away. :
if it doest work at least she learns something.
(((HUGS))) to your DD. Can't be any fun for her.
Maybe there is a fun movie with bees as the good guy you could watch. I know there is the Bee Movie (cartoon movie with Jerry Seinfeld doing the voice of the main character). It's pretty cute but you'd have to read reviews to make sure it's ok for your 5 yo. My 7 yo loved it.
and most of all be a good exsample- dont show fear of bee, tell her they are perfectly harmless and not at all interested in her. if they land on you so what? wait and they will fly away.
I really wish I had some tips to help her feel safe, but to be honest I'm scared of the little buggers myself!
also only 3% of stings result in allergy - not really worth mentioning to a child, imo.
most case- it hurts for a few minutes. no big deal.
What really seems to be helping telling her that bees are more afraid of her than she is of them and that they sting because they are scared and pointing out to her how much bigger and stronger she is than a bee. Also, I have been pushing the point that if she doesn't bother them, they will likely not bother her.
So, it is also really important that all people accept that the world NEEDS bees. We could not eat without bees. So, it would be good to help children at least find a reasonable way to handle their fears. I actually worry about the future of bees when so many people find them so terrifying.
Ideas: bees are important. They do LOTS of work. They are really interesting. They really do not care about people.
An irritated bee will sting, and you cannot always know what irritates a bee. They respond to vibration, so a heavy truck driving by or a lawn mower will irritate. Dark colors are irritating. Walking too close to their flight path in and out of their hive irritates. Some bees and wasps are ground nesters, so it can be tricky to avoid their nests. Orange scented stuff (like fake orange drinks and some soaps) smell to a bee like a pheromone they release when they have stung something. The other bees know to follow this smell to attack a predator. If a bee sounds irritated, it is. They buzz differently when they're working and when they're agitated. Move away from a bee that is hovering; there is something that is bothering it.
Bees and wasps are different. I know less about wasps, but their behavior is different.
Maybe, teaching her ways to help the bees avoid her, she can feel more empowered? How very hard!
Just an idea.
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Maybe your daughter is allergic to bees and her instincts are telling her to stay away? I think kids sometimes have a way of knowing - beyond logic - what is good or bad for them. My oldest DD refuses to eat meat. Even during the pregnancy, I couldn't eat meat with her (and I love meat!). Her younger sister eats meat all the time. Turns out she has elevated iron levels naturally. She has since birth and it hasn't changed. So her aversion to it is just her body telling her she doesn't need it.
Just an idea.
obviously you would never do anything so heartless, but i totally agree with writteninkursive that sometimes our bodies know more about what's dangerous than we do!
telling your daughter that bees are harmless is lying. you don't need to tell her about allergies to bees, but please don't risk a breach of trust over this!
She does know about allergies, as my mom is allergic, but the fear seems really more about the pain - which of course is reasonable.
Laura, my goodness, I can't believe your father did that. I'm so sorry. I'd imagine that, even if you hadn't had an allergic reaction, getting stung wouldn't have done much to get you over the fear.