My other rule is that I want it done by a piercer, and not at a mall. I used to work at a jewelry both at the mall, and you don't even want to hear the horror stories I witnessed while working there. Plus it's not clean, and heals funky. I know many piercing/tattoo shops have an age limit, so it might take some time to find a place to have it done, if she's still on the young side.
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I'd say whenever she wants 'pretty ears'. It's just one more small thing to take care of (and if taken care of properly, the work should end in a few weeks as they heal).
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My dd is not old enough to know what it means to have pierced ears now. But I'll probably try and put it off as long as possible with her as well. Not 16, but maybe at least 10. When I know she can take care of them, like others said.
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In fact, she's nearly 8, and I still do help her occasionally. She had one catch on something a couple months ago, and it injured the piercing, but I didn't catch it right away (I also didn't listen to her closely enough when she expressed that it was itchy- bad Mom moment!) She developed a pretty icky infection, and we had to do some cleaning and close followup for a couple weeks as that healed. I also changed her to small continuous hoops so there wasn't anywhere for the pus to collect while the infection was controlled. She isn't capable of doing everything herself yet, but she is capable of understanding and participating in the care, which is all I really expect.
She can change them herself, but will usually ask me to do it for her. All in all- it worked out well for us, and the one injury was the only bump we've had in the road in nearly 3 years.
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I described the process and I asked HER when she thought kids were old enough to take care of pierced ears. Her answer: 16!
I think we'll allow it before 16 IF she wants. I was 10, and I think that 8-10 is a reasonable age to be able to care for your own ears.
I started asking at 3 years old, my Mom made me wait though until I was 5 years old. I had to take care of them myself. When I proved myself she also gifted me a pair of real gold hoops, which seemed a HUGE deal at the time. I had no issues.
I am having a boy so I get to put this off for longer, but I still keep going back and forth between doing the piercing as an infant or until they ask, both have pros and cons for myself. But I do so agree with the PP who said that would not get their child's ears pierced at the Mall. I would NEVER do this. I have first hand seen the training and lack of hygeine, I would go to a piercer or Doctor only.
I got mine done when I was 6. I probably wore earrings up through middle school and then I let them close. I got them re-pierced in college and now put in earrings every so often so my holes don't completely close again.
I think I was 4 or so when I had my ears done, and I remember it vividly. Neither of them will remember it.