WDYT? Not a big deal or NO WAY... there are perverts out there and everyone on the planet has a cel phone with a camera!!
If it looks like I'm trying to pick a fight... I'm not, I'm rarely that obvious.
The only time someone has tried to photograph my child is when she was in a bathing suit - it turned out to be tourist creepy guys and I called the cops when they would not stop photographing her.
So yeah, on small beaches we go to often if she wants to take off her bathing suit - rock on girl! I'm not going to teach her to be ashamed of her body.
The perverts will still be perverts if the boy had had clothes on. It's up to the parents and the toddler to decide if he wears clothes and no one else. I say no big deal.
Also, I find it unfortunate that nude babies and shirtless guys were in the background of the bride and groom changing vows, but you said it was a public beach... so you can't really blame them.
Barbara: an always learning SAHM of Ilana (11) and Aiden (8) living in Belgium with my amazing husband.
I totally agree! I also believe that perverts are very rare, most people are good and honest, and I'm not going to live in fear of people who might be perverts. . .I don't think there are enough of them to even think about.
My DD (and future children) will not be nude in 'public.' We'll teach them not to be ashamed of their bodies, but to recognize that not everyone has the right to see their private areas... JMO based on my own negative experiences as a child.
Mother to R- 2/09, & C- 5/11
It certainly wouldn't bother me to see a naked toddler. I think if we were in many countries other than the US people wouldn't think twice about it either.
Candace, Married to dh , Mom to ds (8) , Gavin (9/30/10 - 12/19/10) and cautiously expecting our 4-29-12
...he prances around nude in the house though.
That said, if I was walking with my naked toddler on the beach and I saw a wedding, I'd probably whisk him away and clothe him just to be polite to the wedding couple.
Midwife (CPM, LDM) and homeschooling mama to:
14yo ds 11yo dd 9yo ds and 7yo ds and 2yo ds
I remember when I was a kid ... must have been 4 or 5 ... we were at a state park here with a lake and a beach and we were playing in the sand and this little girl came and played in the sand completely naked. We thought it was weird... first of all because our parents didn't let us run around naked (I got spanked once for riding down the street naked on my big wheel) ... but then she stood up and she was all filled up with sand everywhere... I don't think I'd do naked at the beach just for personal physical comfort... who wants sand in their butt? Of course I know some sand will get in anyway but...
eta - vegemato and I posted at exactly the same time, LOL
nak DS S 4/1/11
But I wanted to comment on something else in the original post. You seem to be very annoyed that members of the general public watched the wedding. You commented that they were "gawking at the ceremony like people rubber necking in traffic looking at an accident".
This is part of having a ceremony in a public place. My husband and I got married at a public beach (at the base of a lighthouse). We had a very small ceremony with only our immediate families there. Including us, our priest, and our photograoher, there were about 20 people there. And LOTS of tourists who stopped to watch the ceremony. Everyone was very polite and stood a respectful distance away; but they were definately close enough to be in earshot and to take pictures. We did not think about this beforehand and we did not expect it to happen, but we considered it to be a delightful surprise. We love that you can see all the tourists in the pictures in our wedding album. And we still laugh that complete strangers have pictures of our wedding in their vacation albums.
Mom to an amazing little guy, age 9 (Autism, Hyperlexia, Dyspraxia, Albinism, Chromosome Microdeletion)
I agree with the PP that getting married in a public spot is an invitation to others to respectfully watch the ceremony. I think having extra people around to witness is charming.
I respectfully disagree that they are "very rare." Every time I hear the stats on the frequency of little girls being sexually abused, I'm blown away by how often it happens.
Jemi - have you read the Gift of Fear, by GAvin Debecker? It might help you sort through what need to be worried about and what doesn't.
I wouldn't have a problem with naked toddler on a beach, but I think it was pretty disrespectful of the adults to hang around gawking at the ceremony, naked toddler or not. I'd certainly be mindful of kleeping out of the viewfinder of any cameras at the wedding (professional or otherwise) if I weren't an invited guest. Maybe that's just my perspective, though.