I find it really hard not to be judgy or at the very least, be saddened by, other peoples parenting choices (and birth choices too)
I just got on facebook and saw that a friend from highschool (not one I'm close with at all) had her baby a few days ago. She had a c-section at 38 weeks because the baby was 'going to be big'....her DD was born at just shy of 7lbs. And then many of the pictures include her feeding the LO with the prepackaged Enfamil bottles.
I know that formula feeding is not the end of the world and doesn't mean you'll be a bad parent by any means. But I still saddens me.
SIL is pregnant right now. She's 19 and not at all ready for a family (her own words), financially or emotionally. She's already said that she doesn't want to BF because it makes your boobs look bad
(and yet she'll barely be able to afford formula). I have a feeling that she'll be more than ok with a intervention-loaded hospital birth and I have no idea what my reaction will be if she chooses certain parenting practices that I consider to be abusive (although mainstream parenting is much more welcoming of them--i.e. CIO)
I feel horrible because I don't even really talk to the girl from highschool and I'm judging her--and SIL isn't even out of the first tri and I'm judging her. But I don't really know how to stop those thoughts from popping up. And as one who is a bit crunchier-than-normal, I really don't want others judging me.
Has anyone found a way to curb this habit? Or at least is there anyone willing to say "I do this too" so I don't feel so bad?
I just got on facebook and saw that a friend from highschool (not one I'm close with at all) had her baby a few days ago. She had a c-section at 38 weeks because the baby was 'going to be big'....her DD was born at just shy of 7lbs. And then many of the pictures include her feeding the LO with the prepackaged Enfamil bottles.
SIL is pregnant right now. She's 19 and not at all ready for a family (her own words), financially or emotionally. She's already said that she doesn't want to BF because it makes your boobs look bad
I feel horrible because I don't even really talk to the girl from highschool and I'm judging her--and SIL isn't even out of the first tri and I'm judging her. But I don't really know how to stop those thoughts from popping up. And as one who is a bit crunchier-than-normal, I really don't want others judging me.
Has anyone found a way to curb this habit? Or at least is there anyone willing to say "I do this too" so I don't feel so bad?