Once DH understood my reasoning for wanting to do any particular thing, he got behind it. Sometimes it's rough, when his OMG SO MAINSTREAM dad makes a disparraging comment about some AP thing we're doing, and he doesn't defend it, but that's a very small issue in the grand scheme of things.
But yeah, everything from homebirth, to not circing, to extended bfing, to cosleeping, and everything in between.
As far as GD is concerned, neither of us ever wanted to hit our children; I grew up in a very pro-spank/borderline abusive family, and he, by direct contrast, was NEVER hit. What we've found, along our parenting journey, is that we were both shamed a lot, him maybe more than me, because his parents used shame as disipline. Also, bribery, and things like that were huge behavior modifiers for our parents. But, whereas I'd done all the reading and knew that those were things I didn't want to do with our kids, he didn't necessarily see anything wrong with any of it, as long as we weren't hitting.
But, we generally address something as it comes up, and deal with it in whatever way ends up being best for our family. He'll put our older daughter in "time out" when he can't think of anything else to do
I totally understand it, because sometimes it's so hard to pick the right words or not just start screaming.