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Have you ever taken your boy out in public in girl's clothing?

View Poll Results: Have you taken your boy out in girl's clothing?
Yeah, we do that all the time! What's the big deal? 14 100.00%
Occasionally. It's happened before, it'll probably happen again. 25 100.00%
Never, but I let my girl wear boy's clothing. 14 100.00%
Never; my girls wear girl clothing and my boys wear boy clothing. 22 100.00%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 4. You may not vote on this poll
Gunter's Avatar Gunter
06:57 PM Liked: 13
#31 of 42
07-20-2005 | Posts: 3,076
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Originally Posted by fourlittlebirds
I mean, I'm not going to put my daughter in a t-shirt emblazoned with trucks
Yeah, b/c I have never met a girl who likes to play with trucks..or cars. I have never met a woman who drives a truck, either. Nope. Never.

Not that I like clothes with trucks on them, even. But it's so silly to think that trucks and cars and dinos belong to boys while flowers, gardens and ladybugs belong to girls.
grahamsmom98's Avatar grahamsmom98
07:58 PM Liked: 784
#32 of 42
07-20-2005 | Posts: 2,262
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No, I have never and would never dress ds in girl's clothing. I do not care to try to shock people and push gender boundries on purpose (I don't understand that idea).

When he was an infant, we dressed him in traditional boy styles, and he now makes his own choices in what to buy and wear. These items are always masculine. Which is not to say that he doesn't like one pair of dark purple sweats! But, he will only wear these at home.

He's 6 1/2 years old now, and when I asked him about this thread, he was amazed that there are little boys out there that wear skirts and ruffles (when they are not part of their natural culture, ie kilt or sarong). He wasn't bothered by this, but said it wasn't something he'd want to do.

I paint my toenails, but when asked if he wanted his painted, the answer was a very firm "NO"! Same goes with cosmetics. Well, except toner and face cream, he loves those!
eilonwy's Avatar eilonwy (TS)
09:13 PM Liked: 16
#33 of 42
07-20-2005 | Posts: 15,067
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Gunter
Yeah, b/c I have never met a girl who likes to play with trucks..or cars. I have never met a woman who drives a truck, either. Nope. Never.
Um, are you being sarcastic here?
littleaugustbaby's Avatar littleaugustbaby
04:30 AM Liked: 0
#34 of 42
07-21-2005 | Posts: 7,032
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Um, are you being sarcastic here?
I'm pretty sure it was sarcastic.

I didn't vote, because I don't have a son. But if I did, and he wanted to wear girl's clothing out of the house, I'd have no problem with it.
Gunter's Avatar Gunter
05:46 PM Liked: 13
#35 of 42
07-21-2005 | Posts: 3,076
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Originally Posted by eilonwy
Um, are you being sarcastic here?
Yes, very. :LOL
meemee's Avatar meemee
10:40 PM Liked: 1878
#36 of 42
07-21-2005 | Posts: 12,623
Joined: Mar 2005
well when i have a son i will have no problems with what he wants to wear even if it is nailpolish and eyeshadow. whether he is 2, 5, 9 or 12. if he can carry it off and chooses to be that way then i can do it too.

my dd is a tomboy who always chooses boys clothes when we go shopping. she considers a dress as dressup clothes. if it has gathers then it becomes a ballerina dress. she prefers shorts. since most of her clothes are handme downs we get a mix of both. plus i have a hard time finding bright colours for girls and so automatically shop in the boys section.

my fav. story though is that my dd was a bob the builder fan but not any longer. she had a couple of bob outfits which we gave her friend when he started that interest.

the other day she was in her fav. shirt with a mean looking crocodile and definitely boy pants. her 5 and 6 year old boyfriends were so upset about why she was wearing boys clothes. my dd yelled at them BECAUSE I WANT TO!!! at almost 3 i dont think she has a sense of what is boys or what is girls clothes. she wears mostly boys uw.
fiikske's Avatar fiikske
01:34 AM Liked: 0
#37 of 42
07-22-2005 | Posts: 135
Joined: Jun 2004
I have 2 girls now, and no boy yet, but I'm sure that if the third (or fourth or fifth... ;-)) is a boy, he'll be wearing some of the clothes of his elder sisters... definitiely as a baby ;-) Once he's starting to refuse and want his own selection of clothes, no problem...

Fiikske
Embee's Avatar Embee
11:27 PM Liked: 5
#38 of 42
07-22-2005 | Posts: 2,086
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I voted, Yep, no biggie deal.

I can't believe I didn't respond to this threat initially. This is our life...

DS just completed a two week stint as Pippi Longstocking (dress, stocking, braids, the works!) so indeed, he has on many occasion been seen about town in girl duds. He's currently growing his hair so he can have real pig tails rather than the ones I made for him with an old head band and pipe cleaners. DS is a HUGE HUGE HUGE role player. Its been full speed ahead with few slow downs since he was about 2 1/2. We rarely leave the house NOT dressed as someone, something, an animal, dinosaur, etc. I'd have to say that his most passionate role plays are that of dressing like girls; characters, people he knows, or otherwise. Last week we read a book about a fairy and right away he said, "I want to be a fairy." So there he was riding his trike through the house decked out in a tiara, colorful scarf I fashioned into a dress, and a magic wand made from one of his drum sticks and a sparkly pipe cleaner. It's like this all day long. All. Day. Long. On Wednesday we did the shopping. When the grocery clerk asked him who he was this week I was shocked when DS gave her his actual name. Happens about once a month, maybe. Then again, last week he "got a crush on" a friend of mine's daughter. I can usually tell right off if he's going to become smitten with a girl. He's 4 1/2 and already has a "type." At any rate, we arrived home from this outting and sure enough, he went diving into dresser for jeans, and a red shirt to be just like "Robin." And then of course, asked me to pull his hair into a pony tail to complete Robin's look.

MarsupialMom - you described my DS as well, "eccentric but happy with himself." Indeed!

And I wouldn't dream of squelching one single eccentric piece of him.
Cathy Anne's Avatar Cathy Anne
06:28 AM Liked: 0
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07-23-2005 | Posts: 1
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My six-year-old was very dissapointed when one of his little playmates declared that her birthday party would be for girls only. He complained to her mother and, for a joke, she said he could come but he'd have to wear a dress and a ribbon in his hair.

My son took this quite seriously and for the following week begged me to get him a dress. Eventually, for a quiet life, I gave in and borrowed a party dress, underwear, tights and shoes from his cousin. My son trotted off happily to the party, the little girls made a huge fuss over him and he had the time of his life.

Mind you, he has come home in a dress a few times since and I'm wondering what will happen if his father sees him...

Cathy
Embee's Avatar Embee
06:02 PM Liked: 5
#40 of 42
07-23-2005 | Posts: 2,086
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Cathy Anne
My six-year-old was very dissapointed when one of his little playmates declared that her birthday party would be for girls only. He complained to her mother and, for a joke, she said he could come but he'd have to wear a dress and a ribbon in his hair.
It made me feel so sad to read that. And then I realized that I can't remember one single birthday party I had as a girl where there was a boy in attendance. :

My son's long time pal is a girl, and she has always invited both girls and boys to her parties. This year it was a pink and purple party and DS was delighted... and more than a little frustrated at the lack of pink and purple in his wardrobe--we had a major frustration that morning! We figured something out though and all went well.

The thing is, at this point at least, it just hasn't occured to DS that acting or dressing like a girl isn't compeletly normal as it is for him to be a boy. When two neighbor boys came over last weekend (11 and 6), DS was dressed as Pippi and at first they both looked at him like he was a little nutz to which DS replied, "Don't you know Pippi? Don't you like her?" And then he proceeded to start jumping and flipping about... just like Pippi. The little boys just shrugged and played along.

He has spent sometime with other little kids (boys and girls both) who are quite concerned about the differences and who is allowed to do/wear what... that's girly, that's for boys, etc., but DS just doesn't seem to be concerned about this. More power to him.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Cathy Anne
My son took this quite seriously and for the following week begged me to get him a dress. Eventually, for a quiet life, I gave in and borrowed a party dress, underwear, tights and shoes from his cousin. My son trotted off happily to the party, the little girls made a huge fuss over him and he had the time of his life.
I love the visual of this and yes, I do imagine that the girls LOVED having him there! Good for you, and your son!

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Originally Posted by Cathy Anne
Mind you, he has come home in a dress a few times since and I'm wondering what will happen if his father sees him...
Oh no, would he really be upset? He might surprise ya! Bless his heart, My DH has been wonderful about this, and has taken it in the spirit in which it is presented. This morning DS woke up and decided he wanted to be Pippi and DH said to me quiety, "Good. Pippi is so much easier on me than the T-Rex clawing at me all the time." I think DS is a lot like DH was as a kid... DH's favorite toy as a kid was his holster and pistols (he even wore them to church! ), and then, he also took Ballet for a time. As an adult, he's pro gun-control, and while he isn't a huge fan of ballet, he does have an appreciate for it. What he is for lack of a better cliche, is in touch with his feminine side. Something that I have always appreciated about him. He's an artist, a writer, and loves to garden. He also likes watching and playing sports, and plays rock guitar. Well balanced you might say! At any rate, DS has a pretty good role model there!

The best,
Em
Sharlla's Avatar Sharlla
06:07 PM Liked: 860
#41 of 42
07-23-2005 | Posts: 11,638
Joined: Jul 2005
Can't say I have. I don't have any girls so I don't have girls clothing around my house.
jennifera's Avatar jennifera
06:01 AM Liked: 0
#42 of 42
07-24-2005 | Posts: 16
Joined: Feb 2005
Sorry about this being so long.

I have twin 6 year old boy/girl twins, And my daughter was invited to one of friends birthday party that for girls only, and the party was being held at Chucky Cheese (As I have said in my other posts) my son has actually switched places with his sister when we went to a birthday party at a local duckpin (small balls) bowling alley for my nieces son and no one even knew they were wearing each others clothes, I also have a 3 year old son that likes to wear girls clothes, he has also worn girls clothes in public. Both of my sons could be totally dressed in boys clothes and they will be mistaken for girls, Alot of people say that i have 3 pretty daughters and sometimes I will correct them and sometimes I wont.

My daughter was invited to a friends birthday party not too long ago and it was a all girls party, Well my 6 year old son complained to my friends mother also and She said that he could go as long as he was dressed as a girl, (My daughters friends parents have seen my son in girls clothes before and know that he looks just like a girl while wearing them), They also have seen my 3 year old son dressed in girls clothes, They also have a 3 year old daughter.
My daughters friends father of all people said that if my 3 year old wanted to go to the party also he was more then welcome, The father said that he could go either dressed as a boy or a girl. I talked to my 3 year old and he said he wanted to go dressed as a girl just like his brother.

I took all 3 kids (I had my sons dressed in their own clothes) to the store and we were looking at dresses for my daughter when a store clerk came up and asked if she could help, I said that I was looking for a dress for my daughter for a birthday party she was going to, She said that i had 3 very pretty daughters and i said thank you but 2 of them are my sons, She asked which ones and i said to pick out a dress and give it to who she thought was my daughter so she could try it on, I said but if you give it to one of my sons, He is going to try the dress on and i wont let her know until after the dress was tried on, She said ok and she looked at all 3 kids and she picked out a very pretty pink dress that came down between the knees and the ankles and she handed the dress to my 6 year old son, He took the dress and we went into the dressing room to have him put it on, after we went back out to show the store clerk, She said that you look like a very pretty young lady with that dress on, I gave a little nod to let my son know that he could say something to the clerk, and he did, I thought that she would start laughing but she did not, She then asked me if she could try to pick out my daughter again since she had a 50/50 chance, I took my 3 year old son and daughter aside and asked if they were willing to try it again, and i said to my son that the clerk might think that he was my daughter and have him wear a dress, He said he was willing to take that chance, So we went back over to the clerk and she looked at both my daughter and 3 year old son for about 5 minutes, She then went to the little girls dept. and picked out a exact copy of the dress that my 6 year old son was wearing, We did not say anything yet, We went into the dressing room again and i put the dress on my son, when we came out, The clerk said that he looked like a very beautiful princess, Then my son said that he was a boy, I thought that the clerk was going to faint. The clerk could not beleive that my sons could look just like girls in the dresses, I told her that my daughter needed a dress just like her brothers were wearing, after my daughter had her dress, which she put on to make sure that it fit her, All 3 kids took off the dresses and put their own clothes back on and we then went over to the shoe dept. and all 3 kids tried on shoes (black mary janes) and i bought the shoes and dresses and the clerk asked how well we knew my daughters friend and her parents, I said not that well because it was a new friend and the party was going to be held at chucky cheese, The clerk then suggested that all 3 of the kids go dressed as girls and no one would be the wiser.

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