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http://www.mothering.com/discussions....php?t=1093966 iteration 3. Use multi-quoye to respond to stuff from that thread.
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See, when I was a server I used to get confused when people would order their baby Diet Coke...water wouldn't have made me bat an eye.
It's "sugar free" y'know.
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People seem to think Sprite is harmless because it doesn't have caffeine. I griped at XH once for giving 3yo DS Sprite and he said "But it has no caffeine!" Yes, but it's still full of chemicals and high fructose corn syrup.

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Neither of my kids like pop at all and will spit it if they get any in thier mouth.
I have let people figure this out for themselves a few times over the years

Both kids mostly drink water and for my DS at least he is only intereted in something other than water for a few sips not an actual drink.

People don't seem to get the he actually prefers the water not me.

WHen both of my kids had dental issues at a young age they seemed to assume that they drank tons of juice and drank from bottles all the time when in reality by the time my DS had his dental issues he was still nursing for 75% of his food

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from mamakah in part III:
"I used to take ds to a very pro vax, pro FDA, pro everything mainstream medicine pedi. She asked me if he had any ailments lately and I told her that he caught pink eye from his cousin, and that I had treated the eye with breast milk. Her lips pursed and she said:
"Well, breastmilk for the eye is not FDA approved."


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Neither of my kids like pop at all and will spit it if they get any in thier mouth.
I have let people figure this out for themselves a few times over the years

Both kids mostly drink water and for my DS at least he is only intereted in something other than water for a few sips not an actual drink.

People don't seem to get the he actually prefers the water not me.

WHen both of my kids had dental issues at a young age they seemed to assume that they drank tons of juice and drank from bottles all the time when in reality by the time my DS had his dental issues he was still nursing for 75% of his food
yes on the son prefering water. DS won't drink juice. I've never tried giving him soda. He wants water. plain and simple.
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from mamakah in part III:
"I used to take ds to a very pro vax, pro FDA, pro everything mainstream medicine pedi. She asked me if he had any ailments lately and I told her that he caught pink eye from his cousin, and that I had treated the eye with breast milk. Her lips pursed and she said:
"Well, breastmilk for the eye is not FDA approved."

And what's the FDA gonna do, stop production of breastmilk?

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And what's the FDA gonna do, stop production of breastmilk?

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My uncle told me I was "turning DS into a sissy" because I would not let two young girls (ages 8 and 9) who I never met, take DS in the back of a pick up truck bed to go fishing along a deep, fast moving creek. (the older cousin who I also never met was driving the girls about 3 miles down a state road to the creek)

He later went to DH and told him that he (uncle) was very concerned about how DS was growing up because I won't let DS do anything fun or play with other kids.

WTH?

Sending a 3.5 year old off with a group of strangers, all under the age of 17, miles down the road, in an open truck bed, to totter on the edge of a drowning hazard has nothing to do with DS's interaction with other children.

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Here's a really good one from my step-mom.

We distantly know a woman who was just arrested for murdering (suffocating) her baby. Two years ago everyone thought it was SIDS. So, I was saying how I couldn't ever imagine doing anything so horrible to my DD and that I couldn't wrap my head around the idea. It was just so foreign to me! My step-mom then says:

"If you ever feel like killing DD, bring her over here. We'll take her."



I just stared at her speechless with my mouth gaping open. I don't know how many ways I can say I don't want to murder my child.

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A church lady once said disapprovingly to me and DH (29yo and 36yo, respectively), "you two are too young to be taking care of a baby! I hope your mothers are helping you!"

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Re: soda

DS and I were on an elimination diet around 12/13mo. My MIL offered me a soda, and I said "no, thanks - it has corn in it and I can't have that right now." She laughed and said "soda doesn't have corn!" I said "yes, it has high fructose corn syrup."

MIL: That's made from corn??



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My father (who is usually great) once suggested I take my two year old for a walk down the street to show him the dead deer on the side of the road so I could "teach him the dangers of running into traffic"!



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DD is almost 12 months. No one else at church nurses, and in the last few years, no one else has nursed this long, if ever. So earlier one night this week I was in a meeting with a few ladies around my mom's age, and DD got hungry, so I fed her. One of the ladies asked how old she was I answered. She said she thought babies weren't nursed past 6 months.
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DD is almost 12 months. No one else at church nurses, and in the last few years, no one else has nursed this long, if ever. So earlier one night this week I was in a meeting with a few ladies around my mom's age, and DD got hungry, so I fed her. One of the ladies asked how old she was I answered. She said she thought babies weren't nursed past 6 months.
Oh, really? I must have missed the expiration date tattooed on my breasts. *looks down shirt*


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My father (who is usually great) once suggested I take my two year old for a walk down the street to show him the dead deer on the side of the road so I could "teach him the dangers of running into traffic"!
This made me laugh out loud! Not the best idea!!

My dd has also only had water and breastmilk - she's 11 months. when she was around 8 months, someone offered to give her some "juice" which was essentially bright red artifically colored and flavored high fructose corn syrup. Yuck.

I don't know why people always want to feed babies things - it drives me crazy! I had someone offer her a fried chicken patty once, and another time I stepped away for a minute and someone was trying to spoon feed her sweet potatoes that were loaded with brown sugar and butter, and she's allergic to dairy so she can't have butter.

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I don't know why people always want to feed babies things - it drives me crazy! I had someone offer her a fried chicken patty once, and another time I stepped away for a minute and someone was trying to spoon feed her sweet potatoes that were loaded with brown sugar and butter, and she's allergic to dairy so she can't have butter.
My rule of thumb: If I won't eat it, I'm not feeding it to my child (well, with the exception of fruits and veggies I don't like...you know what I mean)
I'm afraid of visiting family for this very reason. They've been pushing me to start solids since he was 4 months old. (Actually, MIL wanted me to start cereal at 8 weeks)

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Had a few today from my aunt...she is generally accepting of our choices, but keeps giving me those advices, like...
- I should take my kids to McDonald's so they will know what other kids are talking about. Even knowing that DS has allergies (including fish) we are still trying to figure out, none of us needs highly processed fat fried foods and we keep kosher style (which means no meat dishes in such places).
- I shouldn't bother with eating mostly organics and healthy foods, since my kids get sick anyway. Of course the fact that they just started preschool/daycare last month and are exposed to all kinds of viruses for the first time in such amount doesn't make much a difference.

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My rule of thumb: If I won't eat it, I'm not feeding it to my child (well, with the exception of fruits and veggies I don't like...you know what I mean)
I'm afraid of visiting family for this very reason. They've been pushing me to start solids since he was 4 months old. (Actually, MIL wanted me to start cereal at 8 weeks)
I regret to say that I fell for the advice of cereal in the bottle. I was young, and told that would help DD sleep through the night.
*sigh* I wish I had had breastfeeding support when she was little.

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this happens to me ALL THE TIME when i order water for ds at restaurants.
server: water? we have juice, milk, chocolate milk and soda...
me: it's fine he'll drink water (ds is 17 months)
server: they are all free with a kids meal!
me: Thank you, but he doesn't drink sugary drinks.
server has confused look.
I can not tell you how many times I've had this conversation. You should see their faces when I add that dd dosen't drink (cow's) milk.

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I remember once when we were visiting family, my daughter was 12 months old and we were visiting my cousin and her baby who was about 7 or 8 months old. I was visiting with other family members, so not really paying attention, but their baby had been eating something out of a box for hours. He just sort of carried it around the house with him. I didn't know what it was.

At one point, the dad took the box and handed it to my daughter and asked her if she wanted one, then caught himself and asked me politely if she could have a cookie. I had to hide my look of utter horror and politely decline.

As it turned out, they just let their son have a box of cookies to eat freely all day long EVERY SINGLE DAY and he would get the "healthy" canned Gerber food during mealtimes.

BLECH!

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A new thread already? Wow, hard to believe there's so much crazy out there.

Or maybe not.

When DD was born, we were pretty involved in a very crunch community. Homebirthing, babywearing, EBFing, CDing/ECing, NIPing etc. were pretty normal. Now that we've moved, and I'm no longer surrounded by my AP squad, I'm wondering what sort of comments I'll be getting ... I may finally have some stories of my own to add in a few weeks.

(Not sure if that should be followed by a happy face or a sad face)

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^sad face. Most of the things I'm reading on here are pretty sad.

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Re: soda

DS and I were on an elimination diet around 12/13mo. My MIL offered me a soda, and I said "no, thanks - it has corn in it and I can't have that right now." She laughed and said "soda doesn't have corn!" I said "yes, it has high fructose corn syrup."

MIL: That's made from corn??



I love that woman, but sometimes she's clueless.
You may want to share with her that that doesn't make HFCS a health food--since it's made from a vegetable and all.
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One can only assume that all of the bad advice we are getting these days hearkens back to the generation that gave us THIS lovely invention:

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omg, those are crazy!
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