At what age is it okay? - Mothering Forums

Forum Jump: 
Reply
 
Thread Tools
#1 of 46 Old 11-11-2009, 09:23 PM - Thread Starter
 
rosesnivy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: Kansas
Posts: 16
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
At what age is it okay for kids to stay overnight with grandparents they know well? My parents kept our two boys (4.5 yrs and 2.5 yrs) for two nights this past weekend while my husbnad and I took a weekend away. Now they say they probably won't keep them for more than a night at a time until they are closer to age 7 (they read some article that suggested that age). Frankly I'm feeling frustrated with them...we rarely ask them to watch them, even so we can go on a date...so it's not a matter of taking advantage of them. I'm feeling like I won't be able to have a weekend outing with my husband till my youngest (who we took with us cause she's 5 months old) is 7 years old. They seem to think it will emotionally hurt them in some way. My boys love spending time with my parents. Can anyone help me put this in perspective? Thanks!
rosesnivy is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
#2 of 46 Old 11-11-2009, 09:25 PM
 
pomplemoose's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2008
Location: oregon
Posts: 243
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
sadly if they're not comfortable with it or dont want to they are under no obligation to do it. I know how frustrating it can be but DH and i only have 1 weekend away a year as of right now and dc's are 6 and 8.

Katie, Enjoying my time with my love Josh:, kiddos Kendel '01 and Xander '03 and our furry beast Sherman '08:
pomplemoose is offline  
#3 of 46 Old 11-11-2009, 09:35 PM
 
riverscout's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: back where I belong
Posts: 2,260
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I don't think there is a one size fits all age. I've never heard of needing to wait till age 7 to spend more than one night with grandparents.

It sounds like your like your parents are looking for an out. Maybe two kids for two nights was too much for them, but they don't want to tell you that for whatever reason.

Anyway, I wouldn't argue with them about it. If they aren't comfortable, then that's pretty much the end of it.

coolshine.gif

riverscout is offline  
#4 of 46 Old 11-11-2009, 09:43 PM
 
moaningminny's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2007
Posts: 219
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I don't think there's any specific age. I would easily leave my 4.5 and 2.5 year old DDs overnight with my parents if they would take them.
moaningminny is offline  
#5 of 46 Old 11-11-2009, 09:48 PM
 
LynnS6's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: Pacific NW longing for the Midwest
Posts: 12,446
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
Whatever age your parents are comfortable with!

Look on the bright side: your parents are nearby. They are willing to take your kids overnight. You could easily get 36 hours to yourselves. Dh and I live far away from family. Do you know how often we've had family take our kids overnight? ONCE. In 8 1/2 years. I'm jealous that your parents can take your kids at all.

Lynnteapot2.GIF, academicreading.gif,geek.gif wife, WOHM  to T jog.gif(4/01) and M whistling.gif (5/04)
LynnS6 is offline  
#6 of 46 Old 11-11-2009, 09:49 PM
 
alicia622's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2005
Location: 44° 48' N 68° 50' W
Posts: 4,568
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I also don't think there is a correct age. DS is 4 and no way would he be spending the night anywhere but with us! It depends on the child and whomever is watching. Maybe your kids had a hard time relaxing at night or perhaps they were just two much for them to handle and don't want to admit that so they came up with the age 7 thing just to make it sound good.

Alicia DH Mike DS Gage Lola & Zeus Fishy Dishy, Charkey and Shark
RIP Sidney 1994-2010 RIP Charlie Brown 2008-2010
alicia622 is offline  
#7 of 46 Old 11-11-2009, 09:56 PM
 
mistymama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2004
Posts: 4,824
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Well my Mom watched ds from age 6 months - 3 years for about 4 hours a day while I worked. So they had a special bond and she was like a second mother to him. I can't exactly remember the first overnight - but I would guess it was around 3-4 years old. Even before that she would babysit for an evening here and there.

I think it depends more on the grandparent and the child AND their relationship. For instance, even though ds stayed with my parents from a very early age - even now at almost 7 I would NOT leave him with my inlaws.

Candacepeace.gif, Married to dh   guitar.gif, Mom to ds (8) biggrinbounce.gif , Gavin candle.gif (9/30/10 - 12/19/10) and cautiously expecting our rainbow1284.gif 4-29-12

mistymama is offline  
#8 of 46 Old 11-11-2009, 09:57 PM
 
dachshundqueen's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2004
Location: SoCal Dreaming
Posts: 2,038
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
If your parents don't want to keep your kids, find a nanny if you absolutely positively must get away so badly.

Your parents have no responsibility to keep your children overnight or for babysitting them for that matter and are completely within their rights to say they don't wish to do so, for whatever reason. I'm really unsure as to why you are feeling so hostile towards them.

ETA: Funny aside, remember the commercial where the parents ditch the twins with the grandparents and promptly jump into a cab?

Liz

Wife, and mother to a small fairy, a demolition expert, a special new someone this fall and a small dachshund.
dachshundqueen is offline  
#9 of 46 Old 11-11-2009, 10:13 PM
caj
 
caj's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: WA
Posts: 51
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
DD stayed with my MIL for a weekend at 20 months and she babysat for us while we where working in the mornings ever since she was 5 months old, she loves grandma . I think there's no specific age, if the child and the caregiver feel comfortable the age doesn't matter. I'm thankful for MIL, she's the only relative that we have contact with.

But then again, it's not my MIL responsiblity to take care of my daughter, it's mine. If she ever says no I'll be perfectly fine with it.

Mommy to Celeste (5)
caj is offline  
#10 of 46 Old 11-11-2009, 10:30 PM
 
kcstar's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: nowhere near Kansas
Posts: 726
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
DS stayed at DH's grandmothers, with my MIL helping out, for two nights when he was 19-20 months old, and had a similar visit when he was 21 months old. They're not in town, but DS and my MIL usually see each other about every 6-8 weeks.

I'd say it's whatever the grandparents, parents, and child are comfortable with. If the grandparents felt they couldn't keep up with small children for that long, I would keep it to just one night at a time like a pp said.

I don't think the article should be taken as gospel, but I think the grandparents have the right to set limits.

Unitarian Universalist Pagan
kcstar is offline  
#11 of 46 Old 11-11-2009, 10:35 PM
 
skueppers's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: Takoma Park, MD
Posts: 1,725
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by dachshundqueen View Post
Your parents have no responsibility to keep your children overnight or for babysitting them for that matter and are completely within their rights to say they don't wish to do so, for whatever reason. I'm really unsure as to why you are feeling so hostile towards them.
I totally agree. There is no reason to expect your parents to take on any child-care responsibilities for your children. Some grandparents are into it, but some aren't, and it's their perogative.

My in-laws are great, and love spending time with my kids. The kids sleep on the floor of their bedroom when we visit. But I certainly don't expect them to watch the kids overnight without us there. I agree with your parents that 7, or perhaps 6, seems reasonable for more than one night away from parents.

To put my background in perspective for you, I think I was 11 before I was away from my parents for even one night, though I remember wanting to from 8 onward. It just didn't come up until my sixth grade class trip.

Sonja , 40, married to DH (42) since 5-29-93, DD born 11-3-2004, DS born 1-18-2007.
skueppers is offline  
#12 of 46 Old 11-11-2009, 10:36 PM
 
noobmom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Posts: 1,042
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by LynnS6 View Post
Whatever age your parents are comfortable with!

Look on the bright side: your parents are nearby. They are willing to take your kids overnight. You could easily get 36 hours to yourselves. Dh and I live far away from family. Do you know how often we've had family take our kids overnight? ONCE. In 8 1/2 years. I'm jealous that your parents can take your kids at all.


DS is over 3 years old. I can count the number of times DH and I have gone out to dinner without him--3 times. Yes, that's just for DINNER. Forget about an overnight. Other than that, I think we went to Walmart once when my mom was in town. I'm not complaining though, I know I could find a babysitter if it were more important to me.
noobmom is offline  
#13 of 46 Old 11-11-2009, 10:42 PM
 
Magali's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: Molten Core
Posts: 2,297
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by rosesnivy View Post
At what age is it okay for kids to stay overnight with grandparents they know well? My parents kept our two boys (4.5 yrs and 2.5 yrs) for two nights this past weekend while my husbnad and I took a weekend away. Now they say they probably won't keep them for more than a night at a time until they are closer to age 7 (they read some article that suggested that age). Frankly I'm feeling frustrated with them...we rarely ask them to watch them, even so we can go on a date...so it's not a matter of taking advantage of them. I'm feeling like I won't be able to have a weekend outing with my husband till my youngest (who we took with us cause she's 5 months old) is 7 years old. They seem to think it will emotionally hurt them in some way. My boys love spending time with my parents. Can anyone help me put this in perspective? Thanks!
Were the kids fine there for 2 nights?
Or are they just saying "not until age 7" because of the article they read? I can understand not wanting to keep the kids overnight if the kids were unhappy...but if they were fine and your Il's are just going by what an article says...well then I don't get it. I don't think there is a set age for overnites, as long as kids, parents and grandparents are happy about it. Like my 2.5 year old wouldn't fare well w/o me overnite because he nurses in the night...but when my niece was that age it was no problem because she stopped nursing at 14 months. As for perspective....OMG they will still take your kids for 1 night at a time....you are super lucky!! My family lives 1000's of miles away and I haven't had a break in a couple of years .

 caffix.gif

Magali is offline  
#14 of 46 Old 11-11-2009, 11:27 PM
 
JL83's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2009
Posts: 903
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
It depends on the kids and the grandparents.

DD is 3. My in-laws have her overnight (sometimes most of 2 days and then the 1 night inbetween) kind of once a month. They've been doing that since she turned 2 and asked to sleep at their house. She's never had a problem and in the beginning they just had her sleep with them, and now she has "her own room" (DH's old bedroom)...

My parents? They have had her once even though she's been asking to sleep over there weekly since she was just over 2 and started sleeping at DH's parents house. And they only agreed to have her because her older cousins (10 and 12) were also sleeping over and would be the main ones entertaining her.

They have no desire to do it again unless it's the same kind of situation.

I'm pretty sure they won't be happy to have her on her own until she's close to school age and can completely put herself to bed.
JL83 is offline  
#15 of 46 Old 11-11-2009, 11:29 PM
 
lilyka's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2001
Location: Sioux Falls, SD
Posts: 17,896
Mentioned: 1 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
I would think the younger the better. My kids have been staying with grandma and grandpa overnight since they were about 2. (or whenever they could make it through the night without making grandma and grandpa misreable and we were able to get out of town)

The truest answer to violence is love. The truest answer to death is life. The only prevention for violence is for the heart to have no violence within it.  We cannot prevent evil through any system devised by mankind. But we can grapple with evil and defeat it, but only with love—real love.

lilyka is offline  
#16 of 46 Old 11-12-2009, 12:44 AM
 
annie2186's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: CO
Posts: 822
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I really think it depends on the grand-parents.

My mom and dad are GREAT - I really have to remember to appreciate them alot more.........My mom will pretty much take my kids anytime I ask her (which isn't alot, since I don't want to abuse it) And she took my then 2.5 year old for 9 days when the rest of us went to FL (just because she would have been to young to remember and I had a 4 month old and a 7 year old..........this way I could actually enjoy the vacation with family).

My In-laws however................not so much! They have watched my two older kids ONCE in the past 3 years! When DD1 was almost 2 and my MIL was STILL freaking about about me leaving her there - the only reason I did was because FIL wanted me too and I knew that DSD could EASILY take care of her. (she lives with us full time).

Anyways, I think I have both sides of the extreme..............really really helpful grandparents and really really NON helpful grandparents.
Just like other posters have said - it is really their perogative......not much you can do to change it!

caffix.gif wife and forever in love with J jammin.gif  - Mom to 4 girls K blahblah.gif '01' J energy.gif '06' M bouncy.gif '08' &  A drool.gif '11'  nocirc.gif  saynovax.gif

 
 

annie2186 is offline  
#17 of 46 Old 11-12-2009, 01:15 AM
 
gcgirl's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Posts: 2,311
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Totally depends on the comfort level of the kids AND the caretaker. I call BS on the age 7 thing, but it does sound like they're looking for an out without having to make a big scene about it with you.

ITA also that they have no obligation to watch your kids. It's a PITA though, if they don't want to. I'd much rather leave my kids with my parents than with anybody else.
gcgirl is offline  
#18 of 46 Old 11-12-2009, 01:16 AM
 
karemore's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: Hudson Valley NY
Posts: 728
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
It sounds like it was just too much for your parents.

DD is 4 1/2 and she doesn't want to stay with my parents yet and she is very close with them. My parents would keep her for a month!

I think it absolutely depends on the individuals there's no right or wrong age.

Your parents wouldn't have brought up that article if everything had gone well those two nights. I'd want to know what happened if it were me.
karemore is offline  
#19 of 46 Old 11-12-2009, 01:32 AM
 
quester's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2004
Location: Concord, NC
Posts: 48
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Oh gosh, DH and I haven't ever had a weekend away!

That said, I don't think I would feel comfortable asking anyone to take my 2.5 and almost 6 yo overnight- especially someone getting to be my parents' age. It would be too tiring.
quester is offline  
#20 of 46 Old 11-12-2009, 02:43 AM
 
pianojazzgirl's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: Montreal
Posts: 4,308
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by LynnS6 View Post
Whatever age your parents are comfortable with!

Look on the bright side: your parents are nearby. They are willing to take your kids overnight. You could easily get 36 hours to yourselves. Dh and I live far away from family. Do you know how often we've had family take our kids overnight? ONCE. In 8 1/2 years. I'm jealous that your parents can take your kids at all.
Same here Count your blessings mama!

Kate, mom to 7 year old Djuna and 4 yr old Alden. Missing our good friend Hal the cat who died June 2, 2010

pianojazzgirl is offline  
#21 of 46 Old 11-12-2009, 03:13 AM
 
alegna's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2003
Posts: 42,826
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Personally, I'm not comfortable leaving kids overnight until they are verbal enough to understand what it means and ask.

Some kids that might be 2. Some kids aren't ready until 7.

-Angela
alegna is offline  
#22 of 46 Old 11-12-2009, 03:27 AM
 
greenmansions's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2005
Posts: 1,982
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by karemore View Post
It sounds like it was just too much for your parents.

DD is 4 1/2 and she doesn't want to stay with my parents yet and she is very close with them. My parents would keep her for a month!

I think it absolutely depends on the individuals there's no right or wrong age.

Your parents wouldn't have brought up that article if everything had gone well those two nights. I'd want to know what happened if it were me.
This. I also think something didn't go so well and your parents are sending the message that they don't want to do it again. They just don't know how to (or don't want to) tell you the specific reasons.

We had one night away this summer after over 5 years with just a handful of dinner dates. My younger child did not handle it very well at 3.5 yo and my mom said she didn't want to watch them overnight again anytime soon. So that's OK, she'll stay with them again in a few years. No rush. At least she's open to the idea when the kids are a bit older.
greenmansions is offline  
#23 of 46 Old 11-12-2009, 03:29 AM
 
2lilsweetfoxes's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: My own little world...
Posts: 1,318
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I sent my then-6 year old to stay with her grandparents on the other side of the country for a year a couple years ago.
2lilsweetfoxes is offline  
#24 of 46 Old 11-12-2009, 07:28 AM
 
ann_of_loxley's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Gloucestershire, UK
Posts: 5,388
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I don't think theres a magical age. It really is down to the child (and the grandparents).

I know for a fact that my in-laws would never be able to cope. And I have the most cautious and placid child out of all the children I know! lol (my parents on the other hand would be just fine - and despite they are older than my husbands, they are just more active, healthy, etc).

And yeah - I get your frustration. My family live thousands of miles away. The only close family I have here are my in-laws. We have never asked them to do anything either. But they just can't. As it is, we get our nights 'away' singally. I am able to take a night or two out with friends whilst DH stays home and the other way around. We get our time together as a family (and I have to work the weekends as well so thats even less time for us). Perspective - it won't be forever.

You might have better luck with friends? We home educate and belong to a pretty big local group where we are all very close. Most of the children 5+ seem to be really into sleepovers at the moment! This is letting various people get some time alone - or time alone with a younger child, etc. Its looking like a great set up at the moment!

But my son - he was 4 in September - is no where near ready. He still co-sleeps for one and I can't see him happily sleeping away from me. Breastfeeding is another thing to think about. Most children I know between the ages of 2+ are doing most of their nursing in the night rather than the day.

Mummy me : > Thats Ann! and my beautiful SONS Duncanand Hamish 19/09/05 & 22/04/10!
ann_of_loxley is offline  
#25 of 46 Old 11-12-2009, 10:16 AM
 
mommy68's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Posts: 6,167
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 2 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by pomplemoose View Post
sadly if they're not comfortable with it or dont want to they are under no obligation to do it. I know how frustrating it can be but DH and i only have 1 weekend away a year as of right now and dc's are 6 and 8.
I agree.

Maybe this is just their way of getting out of ever doing it again for another reason. Some g;parents aren't as in to sleepovers as others are. My parents have watched my children bunches over the years and love doing it. I've always been the apprehensive one usually. I for one think its harder as they get "older" as my teenager has gotten very close to his g'dad and now there are health problems and what not. He will be crushed if anything happens to his g'pa.

__________________________________
46-year-old single (divorced), self-employed working, home schooling, part-time college student mommy to:

19 yr old
12 yr old
5 yr old
mommy68 is offline  
#26 of 46 Old 11-12-2009, 11:23 AM
 
BetsyS's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: world of craziness
Posts: 5,307
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My parents kept my then 2 year old when I was in the hospital having his baby brother. Then, I was hospitalized for 5 days when they were 9 months and 2.5 years old, and they kept them.

Other than that, they haven't stayed overnight. My 3 year old is almost potty trained, and getting to spend the night at the grandparents is high motivation for a week accident-free. I expect that it will be soon.

My mom isn't so great with older toddler diapers (and who can blame her? ), so that's been our limiting factor for spending the night.
BetsyS is offline  
#27 of 46 Old 11-12-2009, 11:47 AM
 
dyehappy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: GA
Posts: 67
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I suppose I would ask them about why the advice in the article resonated with them and discuss it, so that you can better understand where they are coming from and discuss their concerns openly. They are probably very legitimate. I think at age 7 a lot of other activities open up to do with children. Plus, they are a lot more independent and better communicators, which makes caring for them much easier and enjoyable . . . and there are less safety concerns, like having a childproof home and more user-friendly car seats.

I know with my parents, age is definitely a factor (both theirs & my LOs). When DD1 was little (she is 14 yo) it was a lot different. They were young and much more active. DS (19 mo) and DD2 (4 mo) are too much for them to handle all night. They have discussed double teaming it (they are divorced but still good friends) to give us a night out when I'm comfortable leaving DD2; probably around a year old (I still doubt they would keep them for more than 1 night).

Would it be possible to make different arrangements for each of the kids, so that no one feels overwhelmed by having all three? Maybe a combo of aunt/uncle, grandparents, family friend - the children may enjoy some one-on-one time too.

"People who learn to control inner experience will be able to determine the quality of their lives, which is as close as any of us can come to being happy." -M. Csikszentmihalyi
dyehappy is offline  
#28 of 46 Old 11-12-2009, 12:03 PM
 
ollyoxenfree's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2009
Posts: 4,895
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 3 Post(s)
I agree with others that there is no correct age. I also agree that it sounds like it was too much for the grandparents, and they are looking for a face-saving way out.

Since your concern seems to be more about finding a place for your children to stay while you go away for 2 nights than any worries about their relationship with their grandparents, can you explore other options? Are there siblings, cousins, or close friends whom you trust? Maybe you can start building relationships with others who can step in for a weekend, or take the second night after the kids have stayed with their grandparents for one night.
ollyoxenfree is offline  
#29 of 46 Old 11-12-2009, 12:37 PM
 
Peacemamalove's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: Essex Junction,Vermont
Posts: 3,721
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My kids were 6 and 4 I agree that there really isn't a set age. I guess it just depends on how the Gparents feel.

namaste.gif Practicing medicine Mama to four beautiful children 
Peacemamalove is offline  
#30 of 46 Old 11-12-2009, 12:42 PM
 
cschick's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2007
Posts: 896
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
The kid is 3.5. He's stayed over one night at my parent's house just before turning 3 (it was due to a work-related dinner function). My parents have come up twice to stay with him at our house (for two other work-related dinner functions).

I think he'd be fine staying there for longer periods of time. The only problem there is that my parents aren't retired, so something like that simply isn't going to happen. Even though my mom is a school teacher, she's in continuing ed all summer.

My ILs are retired, but they both have medical problems that affect everyday life. I wouldn't want to leave the kid with them for a longer period of time until he's more able to take care of/manage himself, probably about age 7. But that's more because I don't want to complicate their lives.
cschick is offline  
Reply

User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off