I agree w/the pp. I guess it boils down to how you define "problem". If you think that babies and children wanting to sleep w/a parent close by is normal (like we do), then co sleeping is in no way a problem. If you believe that babies and children should sleep alone and/or in another rm and your child doesn't conform to that standard then you have a big problem, and a society like ours that has a million sleep training books and programs.
If you believe that BF should continue until the child and the mother are ready to stop (like we do) then no problem. If you think that babies should be weaned early at 3 wks, 6 mo, 1 yr, etc., then you have a problem when baby and/or mom doesn't want to wean. KWIM?
This is how I keep myself sane:
1. I know in my heart the way I want to parent. I list my goals for my kids which are to raise happy, content, caring, loving, honest, aware of those around them people. (The short list
). I know in my heart that meeting their needs to the best of my ability and having an open loving heart is the way to do this.
2. I realize that NO ONE is perfect and I can only do my best. I count on the fact that my connection w/my children will overcome my mistakes.
3. I don't take it personally when others disagree w/me. (This is a neverending journey, I get better every day). I realize that we are all different and that's okay. The beliefs that people hold have to do w/their experiences, good and bad, and have little to do w/me.
4. I don't defend my choices to anyone. Discussion is fine, but I don't have to defend what I do. If there is a person who can't see past a disagreement in parenting philosophy to see that I love my children and am doing my very best, then they don't need to be a part of my life. If well meaning relatives give you unsolicited advice just say you are doing what you feel is best and move on.
I have learned the hard way that there are ALWAYS people who think they know everything and can't seem to keep it to themselves. They will spout off on any subject. It bothers us more when our parenting practices are called into question bc it's something we care so much about.
And to put your mind at ease, my oldest son coslept for yrs, was BF for yrs and is an incredibly independent little boy (my other boys are younger but are following the same basic pattern). And yes, he sleeps in his own bed and his own rm at almost 7 yrs old. I know that there are lots of other MDC mamas who can say the same.
You are doing a great job mama! Good luck!