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#31 of 42 Old 01-11-2010, 11:22 AM
 
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They call adults whatever I call them, which usually means their first name.
Same here. We do have some very very close friends who are Aunt and Uncle.
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The same thing we call them unless they specifically ask to be called otherwise. Usually, they just use their first names.

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In my circle, the mamas and I have taken to introducing ourselves as Mama (first name). So, the children of my friends call me Mama J______, and my DC call my friends Mama Jane, Mama Ali, Mama Kira, etc.

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Our kids refer to adults the same way we do. Which is to say that they call adults by their first names.

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First names for our friends. Mr./Mrs./Miss for the elderly - not Ms because if she's so old that she prefers a formal prefix, she probably doesn't like Ms either. I prefer to reserve Aunt and Uncle for actual family - but that's a personal preference. In fact, we use it for MY aunts and uncles (i.e. my dc's great-aunts and great-uncles) - my siblings are just called by their first names.
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I try to ask the adult what they prefer when we first meet. The big kids' school friends' parents (that's a mouthful!) are the ones that I have to ask the most. Our local AP group is pretty informal and almost always go by first names. I find, though, that I am more often "DS/DD's mom" than Monica to most of the kids (depending on which of my big kids the kiddo is visiting). I'm ok with that too.

When I was a kid, some of my friends called my mom "Mom" and that was cool. She loved it that they liked her enough to think of her that way. I don't *think* I would be offended if one of my kids did that with a friends' mom, but I might feel a bit sad-in a way, mom is a special name just for me from them, if that makes any sense. We'll see, I guess....

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We're in the northeast.

Our friends are all called by their first names, but my parent's generation are called Mr./ Mrs. whoever.

At church I find it generational as well, the adults under 50 tend to be called by their first names, and the older folks are called Mr and Mrs by the youth.

Aunt and Uncle are terms we only use for relatives.
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We also do first names, and my kids' friends call me "Ruth." If there was somebody who preferred to be called "Ms. Soandso" then I'd respect that and teach my kids to address her as such, but so far that hasn't happened.

I remember how awkward it was when I was newly married and befriended a woman much older than me with a large family. I was 22, she was over 40, and her oldest DD was 15. I was (and guess I still am) closer in age to her daughter than to her! This was my first experience with "having friends with kids" and I wasn't sure what they should call me- and the age difference (or lack thereof) made it even more awkward! We finally settled on her kids calling me by my first name, but it took a few months of them trying to avoid calling me anything before we finally settled on it.

Then, with subsequent friends with kids, the precedent was set, and it was natural for me to do the same for my kids with my adult friends.

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first names here, too. It makes me feel uncomfortable, but idk why.

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First names. We aren't very formal around here.

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My closest friends are Aunts/Uncles

Everyone else is first name, although probably older people or people we didn't know well I would do Mr/Mrs. last name unless they wanted to be called by their first name.

Mr/Mrs first name is definitely not done here! That would seem so weird to me. Whenever I hear that in my head it's with a southern accent

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Same here. We do have some very very close friends who are Aunt and Uncle.
We do the same. Both my best friends and their spouses are Auntie and Uncle.

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